A post from another wife..
When my husband first opened up to me about crossdressing, I won’t pretend it didn’t come as a shock. It was emotional, confusing, and I had so many questions—about him, about us, and yes, about what it meant for our relationship. But over time, what I discovered is something simple and beautiful: it doesn’t change who he is. In fact, it helped me understand him more deeply.
He’s still the man I fell in love with. Still the brilliant, funny, strong, sensitive man I married. But he also has a hidden beautiful, graceful, feminine side of him I never expected. And surprisingly, I’ve come to see her as a best friend too.
We talk about clothes, share makeup tips, and sometimes even giggle over a new dress or pair of heels.
There’s something really special about sharing those moments—woman to woman—with your husband.
Some people might not understand it.
They assume crossdressing is about being gay, or perverted, or even about wanting to become a woman full-time.
That hasn’t been our reality. For my husband, it’s about expression and escapism. It’s a way to relieve stress, to unwind, to reconnect with a softer energy inside himself. I see how happy he is when he becomes her—and as someone who loves him deeply, why wouldn’t I support that?
I’ll be honest, it hasn’t always been easy. There are moments I still wrestle with it, especially when it comes to intimacy. But we’re learning together. And the key has been communication. Honest, vulnerable conversations have made all the difference.
We’ve created our own language around it. We even joke about it now—quietly, privately. Like when I spray my perfume and say, “I know you like smelling like a woman,” or when I tease him about wearing knickers.
Those moments make it feel light, safe, and real.
Being in a relationship with a crossdresser doesn’t make me less of a woman.
It doesn’t make him less of a man. It makes us more open, more empathetic, and in many ways—more intimate. We share a secret that’s become something quite beautiful between us.
To the other wives and girlfriends out there—don’t panic. It’s okay to have questions, to feel unsure. But try not to let fear or judgement take over. Ask questions.
Listen. Laugh together. Cry if you need to. But stay open. You might just discover a deeper love than you imagined—one that embraces every layer of the person you love.
Esme