https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/16/style/modern-love-my-body-doesnt-belong-to-you.html?mc=adintl&mcid=keywee&mccr=AU&ad-keywords=IntlAudDev&kwp_0=454505&kwp_4=1662581&kwp_1=714984
I think we all do a pretty good job of trying to understand crossdressing and what it means etc. We also try and help wives understand, and share opinions and thoughts as that is the only real way forward!
So I thought this recent article was a fitting perspective for the men to read. This reality is the reason many wives, and women in general, can resent the whole thing. It is not fantasy or fun out there for us. For a young woman, it is exactly as this article explains and I have friends with teenage daughters who have witnessed this behavior while they have been with them! It's depressing. I remember clearly every moment of harassment and ogling and yes, being grabbed in clubs because I looked hot in a dress and therefore must be asking for it - and I'm still scared of men in cars driving slowly past, even as a mom pushing a pram! I honestly think women get so tired of it, that they eventually stop wearing anything that shows they have a female body. As you have all noticed! Can you blame us?!
Anyway, food for thought. Crossdressing is the male version of 'woman', and it can be so very far from reality, and this is something men must acknowledge if they're to understand their wives reactions. Or have their wives understand them.
As Ive typed ive made more effort to look nice, makeup, dresses and heels etc and its been so nice and flattering to be told how nice I look especially the first day I went into work in a dress and heels and makeup compared to previous no makeup, trousers and flats.
However the downside is the smutty remarks by any tom dick or harry in the street which I experience more in cities as compared to smaller towns.
There are some pigs out there but there will no doubt be the odd (I dont mean odd as odd lol) crossdresser who is probably thinking love the shoes love the dress love the makeup love the hair.
I know my other half is like that I catch him looking at women in the supermarket or when out shoppng and I know hes admiring how they look and what theyre wearing and he tries to be discrete about it but I know he does it
Em (RG Wife)
I think we all do a pretty good job of trying to understand crossdressing and what it means etc agreed and i’ve also given up on wondering why I crossdress I just do and I enjoy it
We feel it a duty to try and help wives understand, and share opinions and thoughts as that is the only real way forward! Honest and open.
It is depressing seeing how some women are treated.
We’re watching a prog called Love Island and its weird how so many women tell nice men theyre too nice and theyd prefer a bad boy the sort who harass and ogle women and grab women in a club because they look hot in a dress and therefore must be asking for it but why do women go for this type of men is it because nice men are crossdressers? lol
Also this isnt the reason women eventually stop wearing anything that shows they have a female body its contentment and I will put this out there its taking their men for granted as it really negatively affects our self esteem when our women stop making an effort for us and for themselves.
We have acknowledged all we do is dress up we dont know what its like to be women and not really that interested in that as we get what we need, fun stress relief or the turn on from crossdressing we may try to look convincing but we dont want to be women.
Fully understand wives reactions and 80% sure its due to society brain washing / programming
Hi Sindy
We're on your side. This is exactly the sort of behaviour I hate from the part of the male society who think they 'own' women. I don't dress to attract men, I dress because I like how it makes me feel and look. Women should be able to dress how they want, however, it goes deeper than just clothes.
Just to appear female will subject you to the same harassment and if your found to be a crossdresser or transgender then that harassment can soon turn to violence.
The woman in the video is neither dressed provocatively or showing any sign of wanting attention, yet she is subject to constant attention. Men just don't get the same 'attention' from women whilst walking casually down the street.
It is the same attitude that just won't allow crossdressed men to be socially acceptable. These men consider women to be inferior which is why they feel they can talk to them in the way they do. They think women should be grateful for their attention. If a man wants to wear a dress as a far as they are concerned then he is demeaning himself - becoming second class.
I'll admit I'll double take an attractive woman but I've never commented on a woman as the blokes in the video do. I've never wolf whistled or leered at a woman in the street. I think if a crossdresser said 'nice shoes' he'd genuinely mean nice shoes and it would not be meant as some come on.
I think the issue is that some women do dress to illicit some response. This is to boost their ego. I've read articles where women have been disappointed when they didn't get the response they wanted and sometime felt good about themselves when the did get it. The 'wow I've still got it' feeling.
It is always a small minority who can ruin it for the rest of us. There are issues on both sides and as we develop as a society then maybe they will disappear. The more people are educated about these issues and have some empathy the better. I know my two boys would never dream of talking to girls in this way - mind you their still young enough to just not get girls yet!
Katie