Hi, my name is Lisa and I’m the wife of “Lena Deepditch”. Of course that’s not her real name, anymore than “Mrs Deepditch” is mine. My husbands name is Richard.
I am totally straight, or at least I think I am, as I’m married to a man that shows me more love, attention and respect than any woman could wish for. As if that isn’t unusual enough, Richard is also a Crossdresser.
I would never have dreamt of being married to man that likes to look like a woman and when Richard told me that he crossdresses, I was mortified. Was he gay, bi, a pervert, what? It certainly wasn’t what I wanted in a relationship. The saving grace is that he told me shortly after we first met and that honesty was probably the reason that I didn’t completely end the relationship. There were tears on both sides and I took a couple of weeks or so to think things through.
Fate is a strange thing too. Valentines Day came around and I had been thinking of Richard a lot. He was a lovely, honest, hard-working guy, with an odd hang-up. Could we work something out? I had no plans, so rang him at work to ask him out. We went to the cinema and without thinking, saw Mrs Doubtfire! Yikes! What a choice! To get to the point, afterwards we went back to his place and I told him that I was not comfortable with him crossdressing, but that if it was something he had to do, then could he just do it when I wasn’t around. We agreed to try.
That was a long time ago, as you can tell by the film that we went to see! Time went on and I moved in with him, we got married and have had a wonderful life together. Richard continued to crossdress when I was out or working, and I gradually got used to seeing skirts and dresses in his wardrobe and traces of makeup on his face. We often talked about it and as more time went by I became comfortable with him wearing his “girly” stuff at home.
Suffice to say that by talking honestly between us and respecting each others feeling and opinions, we have reached a point where I happily now go shopping with “Rachel”. We love going to Las Vegas, where we have fabulous girls-nights-out and girly shopping trips. I’ve learned that it’s what’s on the inside that matters.
I mainly wear a blouse and trousers to work, with flat shoes and minimal makeup. I no longer see why Richard can’t wear a pretty dress and heels if he wants to.
Last NYE, we held a Murder Mystery Night over Zoom, with three other couples. I suggested that Richard and I switch roles without telling the others, so he became Marlena Deepditch, a wine trader and I became Phil Quimby, connected to the wine chateaux. Richard wore a blue sequined evening dress with a white boa and I wore one of his dinner suits. His dress fitted beautifully but his suit was rather big on me, which made things even funnier!
We both had a really fun evening and quiet a lot to drink. Richard then got stuck with being called “Lena” and I then thought he might want to continue be feminine as he was not working due to this lockdown. He has been Lena ever since, with my blessing, and to be honest it’s the most relaxed he’s been in ages. He’s also been scouring the cookery books and has come up with some amazing dinners for when I get home.
So why am I here? NYE opened my eyes even more. Lena was on TVChix as “Rachel” and so I thought I’d join and see what it was all about. I’ve chatted with some lovely people and learnt a lot. I would really like to chat with other Wives and Partners though, to get their perspective on living with a crossdresser. I’m perfectly happy and would be happy to talk to anyone that thinks I may be able to help them too.