A private joke "Such a girl!"

Sometimes, it's the smallest moments that catch you off guard—in the gentlest, accidental, coincidental and most meaningful ways.

Out shopping and my wife accidentally referred to me as “her.” Just a slip of the tongue in the flow of conversation.

She didn’t stop or stumble.. Just carried on.

But I noticed.

It made me smile inside, though I didn’t show it outwardly - It wasn't meant or intended or in any way associated with her knowing I crossdress a real slip of the tongue.

It probably registered with my wife after she'd said it as a private joke that only we shared, in that split moment without even needing to name it.

But then, out of nowhere, our youngest picked up on it.

“You just called Dad a girl!” .. laughing, playfully nudging at the moment like kids do when they spot something slightly off-script. Then “You're such a girl Dad” Teasing, innocent, completely unaware of any deeper context or connection.

I just smiled and ignored it. Didn’t bite. Didn’t panic. Just let it drift on by.

Because my crossdressing is unknown to our kids (as far as we know).

They have no idea.

But what struck me was how completely natural it felt. How unbothered I was by being lightly teased, and how my wife also just ignored it..

Maybe we're well practised no awkward glances, no correction. Just a shared silence between us that said, “Let it go and maybe in our heads Lol if only you knew I'd been dressed working from home as a woman 5 days this week”

Moments like that don’t shout. They whisper. But if you're listening, they say so much: that we’re growing more at ease, that this double life of mine doesn’t always have to feel like a tug-of-war between hidden and seen. Sometimes, it just is.

A slip of the tongue. A private joke. A teasing child with no idea what they’ve wandered into.

And me, standing quietly in the middle of it all, oddly at peace with crossdressing and why I do it..

Davina