Admiring the Beauty of Women at Weddings: A Crossdresser's Perspective

As my daughter was ill yesterday I stayed home whilst my wife went all dressed up to a wedding evening.

Weddings give women, the opportunity to shine and become ultra-feminine. 

For crossdressers like me, it’s an event that brings a mixture of admiration, longing, and an undeniable sense of jealousy. 

From the moment you step into a wedding, it’s impossible not to notice the stunning transformations that the women undergo—Its not a transformation like ours it’s a transformation of looking their best like peacocks showing their feathers women make extra effort and some even compete to look better than others as women at a wedding.

Men including the groom typically fall back on the reliable (but admittedly boring) combination of suits, shirts, ties, and perhaps a shave and haircut, whilst women put in an enormous amount of time and effort into their wedding day looks weeks in advance of the wedding. 

This will start with groups of women maybe spending a day shopping for an outfit together with pit stops for drinks and meals, then makeup, handbags, lingerie, hosiery and heels..

Usually a top to toe outfit shop and makeup purchase for the wedding day to look their best.

Then there’s the bride, of course, the centre of attention as expected, the bride and all women attending getting the hair done, nails polished, and makeup perfected to achieve a stunning, ultra-feminine look. 

This is the kind of beauty that many crossdressers like myself can’t help appreciate and while we don’t always get the opportunity to go full glam, it’s something we certainly try to emulate when we can.

For me, dressing up is more than just putting on clothes—it’s about achieving a look and feeling that women get to experience effortlessly at these events. 

The way women walk into a room with styled hair, painted nails, makeup, and elegant shoes—complete with a perfect, feminine aura—is the very essence of what we strive to present when we crossdress. 

It’s a deep sense of appreciation for a style that goes beyond just fashion. It’s the art of being or looking womanly and trying to pass as women when we dress.

I’ve been lucky enough to experience wearing wedding dresses twice. 

The first time I wore a wedding dress, I was in complete awe of how it felt and how I felt albeit also naughty given whos dress it was - It was there I had opportunity and couldn’t resist.

The delicate lace, the satin, and the voluminous skirt the lingerie, heels, and stockings were a luxurious reminder of the feminine look that I have always admired in women. 

The second time was just as special. My Wifes - The lingerie, stockings heels and dress (Oh to be that slim again).

Given the chance and time I try to recreate this ultra-feminine look.

We dream of donning dresses, lingerie, heels, and stockings that make us feel empowered and dare I say it beautiful - Or does that sound soppy?

The difference is that while women may reserve such looks for special occasions or just on days they want to feel particularly glamorous, for crossdressers, this level of femininity is something we try to channel every time we get dressed. It’s about embodying the woman and feminine look we admire.

Women can’t understand why we go for this ultra-feminine look and we can’t work out why women don’t always go for it.

At weddings, this yearning is especially noticeable. 

I watch women admiring what they’re wearing and the effort they’ve made and I can’t help but think about how different their experience is from us men in boring suits. 

Yes, men look sharp, but it’s a look that stays relatively static—a well-tailored suit, a freshly ironed shirt, and a neatly styled haircut. While that’s perfectly fine for a wedding, it often feels like a limited expression of individuality compared to the full range available to women.

For us crossdressers, it’s not just about wearing clothes—it’s about creating that full, feminine look, from head to toe. The makeup, the hair, the soft fabrics, the delicate shoes, the stockings, and the lingerie—it all contributes to a look that makes us feel different .. escaped from our boring norm. And at weddings, when everyone else is admiring the bride and the women around her, we can’t help but admire them in a way that others don’t quite understand.

We long for the opportunity to dress and present that way behind closed doors in secret.

So, as we watch women glide past in their wedding gowns and sleek dresses, with heels that add grace to every step, let’s acknowledge their effort, but also the way they remind us of our own journey. 

The act of transforming into someone ultra-feminine, feeling beautiful, feeling sexy and exuding that femininity is a feeling that we, as crossdressers, constantly strive for when we have opportunity to dress. 

And when the opportunity arises, such as a wedding, we get to experience it firsthand.

It's a reminder that, at the heart of it, all we want is to feel the freedom, the beauty, release our softer side and the confidence that come with embracing our very hidden softer feminine side fully.

Weddings may be about love and commitment, but for crossdressers, they also represent an aspirational moment to reflect on the transformative power of feminine beauty.

Davina.