Does Cross dressing make better husbands?

I think the answer is yes.

I would wouldn't I as I'm a crossdresser and I'd want women to believe me, to give crossdressers a chance..

Its hard to judge if a crossdressing husband is a better hubby than one who doesn't crossdress..

How can we judge this?

Most men have a wandering eye.. Women wouldnt be telling the truth if they said they never look at attractive men or i should say men that are attractive to them from celebs to some bloke in a pub..

When i say most men have a wandering eye I include myself in that.. Men would be liars if they said they'd never looked at other women..

Its something of a bug bear of mine to be with a bunch of married men to see them properly letching and the words "I'd #### her" yes but shed not touch you with a barge pole.. I saw online this week a bunch of middle aged lairy men in a pub confronted by a young girl who said "I hope your wives are proud of you wolf whistling and oggling a young girl... Im 16"

Its sad if your eyes gonna wander be reapectful ..

I admitted above my eyes wander a pair of legs out in heels and black tights my guilty pleasure to look discretely and my wife knows I'm not like the men above I'm a cross dressing husband.. I know the denier of the tights and I'm appreciating her heels and what she's wearing, how she's done her makeup and hair..

We're looking at women differently.. Maybe like other women look at women wondering where the dress came from..

The other thing I've seen though is women sneering at other women and "who does she think she is" as I used to hear at the school gates as one teacher always made up, dressed nice and in heels arrived at work.. I don't get that why would a woman put another woman down for trying to look her best.. Like cross dressers getting enjoyment and escapism from presenting how we do I winder do some women feel that escape in makeup, nice dress heels.

Enough of this example you get the drift.. A cross dressing husband thinks different. I think.

Crossdressing, for me, isn't about wanting to be a woman or replacing my wife or even competing with her when I present as Davina.

It’s about connecting with a different part of myself—a softer, more emotionally aware, more vulnerable part and I do it for myself.

When I’ve had time to express that side as I've had 3 days so far this week I return to my “everyday self” feeling more balanced, grounded, even maybe more affectionate.

There’s less pressure in my head.

The background noise quiets.

That means I’m more present.

More available.

I listen better.

I feel more tuned in to her, to my kids.

I forget work post working when I've had a Davina day.

There are benefits there a less stressed more attentive husband.

The Paradox

If i cant dress for ages or if I suppress Davina for too long—due to life, work, school holidays—it builds up inside me stress and without the escape uber stress.

I should take my blood pressure as Davina and again when I've had a prolonged time not dressed and see the difference.

I get irritable. Distracted. A bit distant.

It’s like I’m not quite myself.

I keep saying it and it must sound mad or weird but crossdressing resets me.

It’s a strange paradox.

A man presenting fully as a woman putting on heels, makeup, a wig and a dress to feel different for a while

Emotional Intelligence in Heels?

Traditional masculinity (me 97% of the time) doesn’t encourage emotional openness.

But crossdressing has taught me to face shame, fear, joy, longing, depression —and to talk about it.. Although its hard to talk about.

Something for another blog..

It’s pushed me into deep, honest conversations with my wife—some painful, some healing. It’s made me more vulnerable, and more appreciative of her courage to keep engaging with something she didn’t choose.

It's Not All Positive

Let’s not sugar-coat it.

Crossdressing has caused tension in our marriage too—confusion, fear, awkwardness, jealousy.

She knows I chat to people online (including other crossdressers, even men sometimes), and that’s uncomfortable for her.

I've explained its just chatting sometimes its banter about football sometimes its a bit Monty Python.

She’s said chatting to men is leading them on..

I can't help if men find "Davina"attractive - Davina isn't real!!

A Better Husband? A Work in Progress

Crossdressing hasn’t made me a different person.

But it’s brought out aspects of myself that were buried—compassion, empathy, sensitivity. It’s also deepened my respect for my wife’s strength to accept this part of me, her humour with this, her femininity which to an extent may have seemed under attack from me crossdressing and her patience.

I’m still learning how to be the best partner I can be—sometimes clumsily, sometimes impatient and frustrated, but I genuinely believe that exploring this side of myself has made me more emotionally available, more aware, and more grateful for the woman I married.

She sees in Davina someone or something "Nicer than male me".. A best friend with male and female thoughts maybe she can talk to and trust.. Maybe she needs to bring out the Davina in me more often.

So yes, in its own strange way…

Crossdressing might just make me a better husband.

Davina