Looking Ahead: Embracing Davina Time Now — Preparing for the Challenges Ahead

2025 has already been a remarkable year for me as Davina — 16 days so far, more than I managed in the whole of 2024.

These moments of dressing and being Davina have been a rise for my spirits, a way to reconnect with a deep part of myself that brings calm, confidence, and enjoyment.

I’m grateful for the opportunities I’ve had — days in January, March, April, and even five in a row in June and opportunity this week — where I could fully be Davina.

These times aren’t just about clothes or makeup; they’re emotional lifelines, stress building and an escape from male me who funny enough on my birthday wishes both the wife and kids said they loved me but i do their heads in sometimes.. partly teasing and maybe when i'm not in the right head space and being obstructive and moody.

16 days so far helping me feel balanced, lighter, and more grounded.

But looking ahead, I know the landscape is shifting.

My youngest child has 3 weeks left in school then 6 off and in those 6 weeks there will be zero opportunity to be Davina so I'm making the most of it whilst I can - I think my wife was hinting to that yesterday as we chatted in the garden.

Another year in school then exams and off from this time next year so a last year of relative freedom when i can get it.

2026 September will see the next move in education starting college nearby.

My child will be in and out throughout the day for two years just like the oldest was a lecture plan means nothing as seems these college and uni lecturers cancel at short notice.

This means fewer pockets of quiet at home and more challenges finding time and privacy to dress for the next 2-3 maybe 5 years depending on what they both do in college, uni and work.

I also know that after summer 2026, when both my children will be moving between university and college, the unpredictability of their schedules will make dressing at home even harder — the risk of being caught rises, and private space becomes scarcer.

So, what now?

Make the most of 2025 and early 2026.

I plan to dress when I can and not put it off — to build Davina time into my life as much as possible before the busy years come.

Whether it’s a whole day, an evening, or a few hours, I want to soak it up and get my escape in as much as possible as it helps my mental health as male me.

Prepare for the tougher times with strategy.

I’ll work on taking what opportunity comes my way, dressing when away with work which may pick up again in the future if policy in work changes away from video calls and back to face to face meetings .. Keeping Davina alive emotionally through blogging / journaling, a spritz of perfume, maybe knickers under male clothing will also help.

Accept that this is a phase — not forever.

The next few years may feel long. I can hold on to hope and creativity to keep Davina part of my life, and enjoy the moments when i can escape.

If you’re reading this and facing similar challenges balancing family, privacy, and your crossdressing or gender expression, you’re not alone. We find strength in planning, in small moments, and in knowing that the parts of us that matter are never really lost.

Here’s to grabbing the time while we can — and holding space for ourselves, no matter what the calendar looks like. - I'll just make the most of what I've got in the next year and a half and enjoy Crossdressing and figure out the next steps to get my fix after that.

Davina