My wife's fears

It's been hard over the years to talk Crossdressing as both myself and my wife at times clam up or don't know what to say.

It's usually after a drink that I broach the subject and here we were on a hubby and wife evening out for a drink a noisy pub but enough privacy for us to talk about my crossdressing.

We're laughing and joking about it and then I ask come on what do you really think? What's your fears?

Finally she tells me.

1. That I'd present as a woman more often and want to go out as Davina and people will find out I'm a crossdresser.

2. Although she asked me when I told her I was a crossdresser "Are you Gay?" She says she's put the thought of my sexuality as Davina out of her mind she says she has but I think it's still a fear.

So is she right..

The older I'm getting the more stressed I've become.. I've also gone through bouts of depression although I've hidden that as I'm a man it's what we stupidly do.. not depression related to Crossdressing but other things life's challenged us with.

I've mentioned before a cure for stress and a boost to my mental health is Crossdressing.

To an extent yes she's right but shouldn't fear it.. if I could I would present more as Davina than I currently do.

It would be nice if the world would accept a man presenting however he felt whenever he felt it.. wake up and think how do I want to present today?

So does that make me gender fluid? I don't think so as I'm a man, born a man, I'm a dad and a husband so she doesn't have to fear me one day getting dressed and not changing back to male me or deciding to leave the house or go out as Davina.

As for number 2 I'm not attracted to men.. I love women and femininity so she has nothing to fear I'm not about to run off with a man.

She's right to have those fears as there are Crossdressers who have progressed across the trans spectrum and transitioned and there are also men who crossdress who have experimented sexually.

The stats say most Crossdressers are straight other stats say the sexuality of Crossdressers is no different to the sexuality of nonsense Crossdressers .. how do they know as most are in the closet not voting in on line polls on their sexuality etc.

It my experience in chatting to other t girls that lots of tgirls are bisexual and some become bisexual.

I've had conversation with tgirls, admirers and wives and have asked them the same questions my wife asked me and I've mentioned my wife's fears to them and I've questioned them deeper. Maybe I'll add a blog post here about some of the most common reasons given by tgirls and admirers for their sexuality and kink and I've also got to sum up in a post why I Crossdress and why others crossdress.

Anyway I hope my wife's fears are allayed by my chats with her and how for me this hobby is my escapism.. I'll never be Davina 24/7 and I don't fancy men.

Davina