Planning Davina and life

I enjoyed being cross dressed working from home twice this week and have made a pact with myself to assure I enjoy this side of me even if its an hour or so at least twice per month as a minimum.

The escape it gives me is amazing magical the whole process is enjoyable from putting on makeup to just feeling chilled seeing my reflection and the feel of what I'm wearing.. I guess women take all this for granted and think I'm crazy getting this much enjoyment out of something they can do every day..

It takes some planning to make time to cross dress.

There are three calendars in my life.

The first is the obvious one — work meetings and work work work tasks and deadlines which rules far too much time in my life.

Then the outside work calendar family events, errands, sport, the never-ending swirl of commitments.

The 3rd is quieter, hidden between the lines of the first two.

It’s not on Outlook or scribbled on the kitchen wall planner. But it’s just as important.

It’s the Davina calendar. These events rare but important for my sanity.

Dessing two days in a row this week made me feel lighter, grounded, reset despite a bout of man flu. Like a weight had shifted off my shoulders.

If it weren’t for video meetings, I’d likely have made it three.

That tells me something important: Davina time isn’t just fun — it’s necessary.

I can’t dress and present fem every day, and I don’t want to. But I’ve learned that if too much time passes, I start to feel disconnected, depressed, frustrated. So I look ahead at the month and try to find one or two quiet windows. Days when I know the house will be empty.

Its pretty rare with teens.

It’s like being two people with one diary.

Oh how I sometimes wish there were two of me a clone but one mind how work and life would be easier as I'm an impatient man frustrated by a lot of things in my life.

I don’t resent it — I understand the limits and the need to keep this private — but it does take effort. Effort to make space, effort to prepare clothes and makeup, effort to be ready to relax.

When It Works, It’s Worth It

I find myself smiling more after dressing.

More confident, more present.

Even the ‘normal’ days feel easier after a little time as Davina.

That’s why I’ll keep planning, quietly, around the edges of the work and life calendar — Aim for twice o'er month minimum anything more a bonus.

I think a lot of us live like this — fitting our whole selves into gaps in the schedule.

But when you find those windows and you take them, it feels like sunshine after rain.

So if you're reading this and feeling the itch, the urge, the longing, the need, maybe it's time to check your calendar. Both of them and plan..

Beware though you can look forward to that secret calendar event and life has a habit of throwing something your way which means your "Daviba time" is cancelled.. Get back on the secret calendar and find the next event and don't put off the opportunity when it comes your way.. I need to take that advice myself sometimes.

Davina