The Argument

We hardly ever argued when dating and no arguments in our marriage..

This was after we'd had our first child.

I seem to have a better distance memory on certain things than my wife.

I believe after our first child she had what's called the baby blues a bit down and definitely off sex.

You expect that as a husband your wife's not giving birth then wanting or having sex she needs recovery time and that new mother time.

But we went a long time after our first without sex and as I recall it without a lot of intimacy maybe this was the up through the night feeding the baby etc but I know and this is how we remember it I was very sexually frustrated as months of pregnancy no sex and it must have been 12 maybe 18 months no sex and I compensated back to my teens

I was crossdressing when I could and back to getting myself off as Davina ..

One night out with friends my wife's friend and myself sat chatting and she confided in me for whatever reason maybe as I was a trusted male friend that she had sex life issues with her husband, she wanted intimacy he didn't also telling me she'd dress up for him and still nothing and I confided that I was going through similar noting she'd not had kids herself so had no idea what my wife was going through mentally and when sex drive returns.

Her advice was go home tell her how much you love her, fancy her and want her sexually.. So at home that's what I did but my wife wasn't interested, tired whatever and the sexual frustration boiled over and out of my mouth stupidly came " Are you having an affair? We're not having sex is that why?"

She flipped back at me "How and in what time would I have spare to have an affair"

The Argument went back and forth and for the one and only time she threw at me "It doesn't help that you're a Crossdresser!!"

I was livid at this she was livid at me I slept on the settee her in bed.

Was this a truth she'd never told me a resentment me being a Crossdresser? Less of a man? I didn't turn her on any more because I was a Crossdresser?

We must have talked after this called a truce as she got pregnant again but I knew after baby no2 that intimacy may be on the back burner for some time after baby no 2 arrives so again Davina stepped in and sorted my sex drive like I was as a teenager dressing to get myself off subbing Davina in and it was hot getting off as a crossdresser but I'd cum and get that guilt and have the change back.. then regret changing back.

This was the only time we've had a blow out about sex and crossdressing.

Davina