The Power of Online Support for Crossdressers and Their Partners

When I first started crossdressing as a young lad, I didn’t have a clue that there were others like me.

It was something I did quietly, often with a rush of nerves and adrenaline, driven by the feel and look of lingerie and a cheap thrill I didn’t yet understand.

I never once thought, 'maybe there are others who feel this way'.

At the time, crossdressing felt like a guilty secret, something to keep hidden away.

Fast forward a few years (okay, more than a few), and the internet changed everything.

(I'm old enough to remember life before the internet.. although I don't look it lol)

I still remember the moment I stumbled across an online crossdressing blog. I was fascinated. There were others. Not just a handful—but thousands.

Thousands of men like me who crossdressed for so many reasons: self-expression, identity, escape, comfort, even pleasure.

It was like stepping into a room and suddenly realising you weren’t the only one holding your breath.

Eventually, I decided to create a blog of my own to make sense of my thoughts. Why Do Men Crossdress was born, and what started as a way to share my personal journey and maybe connect with a few others… exploded.

It became one of the most-read crossdressing blogs in the world and still features in the top 20-30 even though i closed it years ago.

I added a Q&A section and the blog grew even more, which led me to start a Forum, also called Why Do Men Crossdress (this one on Wix), back in 2017.

It became a space where t-girls and their wives or girlfriends could talk honestly and openly. No shame, no judgement. Just connection, understanding, and support.

Since then, I’ve received countless emails from crossdressers and their partners thanking me for the help and advice and celebrating acceptance.

Some of those conversations went further—Skype chats as Davina with wives who just needed to talk to someone who’d been there, seen it, worn the heels. I've enjoyed the compliments from other wives and girlfriends how i look as Davina which is nice but for some it's been the first time they've chatted to a man presenting as a woman having not yet seen / met their husbands / boyfriends crossdressed and guess what?? They've all been nervous, I've been nervous too presenting as Davina on camera chatting to these strangers I've only ever corresponded with via the forum but they've all realise I'm just a normal guy, nothing to fear, I'm not a pervert and i don't have a hidden agenda.

I’ve had the privilege of helping many couples come to terms with crossdressing—often far faster than my wife and I managed in the early days.

That’s not a criticism of my wife—everyone has their own pace. And if anything, that’s what I try to remind others: there’s no single timeline for understanding or acceptance. But I do think, if we’d had this kind of support network years ago, our journey might have been quicker and easier.

More recently, I started blogging again—this time from a more personal perspective—on Why Do I Crossdress.

It’s a place for me to offload thoughts, emotions, and the occasional lipstick tip (I'm hoping my wife will read my blog as another way of letting her know where I am, where we came from and add assurance it's not going any further. But it’s also for others like me, still searching for someone to say, you’re not weird, you’re not alone, you’re not broken.

Sites like TV Chix have helped me chat and network with other crossdressers (and sometimes their wives). While some use it to meet other t-girls, arrange t-girl events and some to meet admirers, I’ve always seen it as a way to connect, vent, laugh, and explore this part of ourselves that still feels taboo to many.

Sometimes those chats lead to webcam catch-ups—me as Davina, them as their femme selves. And sometimes, the wives join in too. Those are the special ones.

If you’re reading this and feel alone, don’t. We’re out here. We’ve walked the same path, faced the same fears, asked the same questions. And thanks to the internet, we can find each other. Support each other. Be seen.

I still crossdress, I still blog, and I’m still figuring things out. But I know this much: discovering this community changed my life. Maybe it can change yours too.

Davina