When a Crossdresser’s Effort Outshines Reality: Not Competition, Just Care and wanting to look the part

Out shopping yesterday and today, I couldn’t help but notice something I’ve observed many times before: Among the hundreds of women going about their day, only a small handful stood out as having really made an effort with their feminine appearance.

Maybe three or four a small percentage.

One in a nice blue summery dress with just the right touch of makeup.

Another in figure-hugging exercise gear that showed confidence and pride in her body and makeup.

A couple more, immaculately presented, like they'd stepped from a magazine cover into the shopping centre. But the truth is, these kinds of women seem rare.

Most people—understandably—go for comfort, practicality, ease.

And it struck me, not for the first time, that if I were a woman, I’d be one of the rare ones.

I don’t say that to be vain or competitive and this isn’t about “looking better than women.”

It’s about how much care I take and would take as a woman—how much attention, thought, and intention I'd pour into it not to attract or stand out but for myself and my own pride - If you're going to do something do it fully and properly.

I know the effort it takes and recall again at the school gates a mum was running late kids were going in teachers welcoming them and here she comes running with her kids late for school opening and she exclaimed "No one look at me I'm hideous I slept late and haven't any makeup on" - She didn't look hidieous but was the first time I and others hadn't seen her all made up - She was one and probably still is one of the smaller percentage of women that don't go out without makeup or presenting how she likes to present to the world.

I'd be like that too I think.

I'd choose the right shade of foundation, not too heavy, so I blend in under the shop lights.

My lipstick is always appropriate—nothing too bright, just enough to feel polished.

My eye makeup soft, enhancing not overwhelming.

I'd choose outfits carefully—what works for the season, what flatters, what lets me move through the world appropriately but with a nod to the effort made to maintain myself and my look that people may take a little mental note - 'She looks nice'

I know what wig works for me so know how my hair would be styled if I was a woman.

Most women aren’t trying to make a statement every time they leave the house.

They’ve grown up being seen as female—it’s not something they have to prove or protect - Maybe some take makeup and all that we enjoy about trying to present female for a few hours for granted?.

Sometimes I look around and realise: I’ve made more effort today than most of the women around me as a man and if I was dressed earlier in the day or as I was dressed working from home I think I probably looked better than a percentage of the women I saw out shopping.

When I’m Davina, I’m not just playing dress-up—I’m showing up. Fully. Carefully. Elegantly.

It's not about vanity, its more a challenge to myself to try to look as convincing and as classy as I can as a T-girl. A bit of pride in the look.

Maybe it's me but I don't understand why women wouldnt embrace their femininity and the options they have more..

Davina