"Why No One Would Ever Guess I'm a Crossdresser"

Now making this a trilogy as the thoughts come to me on colour co-ordinating and people watching.

If you met me in everyday life, you'd probably never guess that I crossdress.

As a man, my style is... well, rugged at times. Think jeans, boots, sportswear. Casual shirts, jumpers, maybe a football or American football jersey. Sometimes sharp and smart when needed — but always male through and through. Solid. Alpha. A bit sporty.

I like presenting that way. It feels natural, it fits my life, and it definitely doesn't leave people thinking,

"I bet he wears lingerie under all that!"

Because let’s be honest — society still holds these weird, outdated ideas about what a crossdresser “looks like.” and what a man should be and how a man should look and how a woman should look and this is mans clothing thats womens clothing .. As I’ve heard before “It’s not womens clothing its mine” lol

 Crossdressers are everywhere, living normal lives, being dads, husbands, brothers, friends. Some are wives, mothers, sisters but they can dress mostly however they like.. No one questions a woman in a sports shirt but then look how far womens sport has finally come in the last decade.

And most of us crossdressing men as men? We blend in perfectly.

The Two Worlds of Me

When I dress as Davina, everything shifts

 Out goes the ruggedness. In comes the elegance, the softness, the attention to detail. Perfume, heels, coordinated outfits, a sense of grace.

The transformation isn't just external — it's in my mindset, my body language, my energy.

 It's not about being "effeminate" as a man “I’m never erreminate as a man”— it's about expressing a completely different side of myself in a safe, private way.

But day-to-day?  I go about life in my boots and jeans, joggers and trainers or shorts blending into the crowd, living fully in my male life. The two sides don't compete. They complement each other.

Why It Works

I think one reason no one would ever guess about Davina is because I don't give them any reason to.

 My male life is solidly male. My interests, my appearance, the way I carry myself — it's all very "alpha" to the outside world.

And if I’m honest? I think that separation protects Davina too. It gives her the freedom to exist without pressure or expectation. She's not something people suspect. She's something I choose to share — when I want, where I want, with who I want.

OK just with my wife as that’s her rule no one knows bar her and no one else is to know bar her .. firmly in her closet.

Maybe this escapism is partly because being and presenting and maintaining Alpha is exhausting when you’re forever hiding this softer side to your real self which maybe only your wife and kids see occassionally.. I don’t mean Davina I mean the softer side of me not the brash arrogant exterior others are equating with me as a man.

A Final Thought

Sometimes, when I'm out and about, people watching with my wife, we quietly comment on outfits, looks, and fashion faux pas. And in those moments, I smile to myself. Because if they only knew... the man in the rugged boots and jeans could probably give them a few tips on makeup, heels, and colour coordination.

But they’ll never know. Because being a crossdresser isn't about giving yourself away. It's about having a whole, beautiful part of yourself that you choose to reveal when the time is right.

Or when your wife tells you its ok to share the secret with someone lol

Davina