If I can give my "six pennyworth", my wife knows about Stephanie and tacitly approves - she sees the peace it brings me - but that was not the deal she signed up to and I accept that, so in 20+ years she has only seen me dressed a handful of times. Be thankful the dressing has not caused a schism in your marriage - I have seen many where it does - and respect her feelings too.

I expect she is objecting and rejecting his crossing so why then she'd want sex with him dressed is understandable.

Why? may be the way hes told her or approached this we can't tell from the letter.

Compromise needs acceptance and she needs to see that curve Davina put here and see where she is and where she could be and if she wants that or not.

I think this is the safest place I've found for us wives to chat and add thoughts interlaced with you t girls posting and wish it was easier for wives to find.

Weve seen sexualised sites and we've seen feminist "it is a disgusting perversion sites" this one is balanced.

I added a star wars term to another post thanks to my husband reading over my shoulder and he says this forum brings balance to the crossdressinfg world says its for crossdressing Jedi. I just think we're all grown ups here and talk and think in a more grown up way and help to support one another.

Emma (Wife)

Reading the post it seems that he's looking to enhance his sexual performance. It's not that he can only get aroused when dressed - that would be a fetish. I think that lots of couples need a little help from time to time which is obvious from the strength of the adult toys industry. I think the sex toy industry is as big as the fishing industry in the UK!

As with anything introduced it has to make both parties comfortable. Obviously his wife has some objection to him dressing. So best course of action would be to find out why? Is there a compromise? She knows about his dressing so it won't come as shock.

His sex drive maybe being affected by the anxiety he is feeling which can be a downward spiral.

Katie x

Lol Hannah I know what you mean but its all very difficult isnt it how wives will react and the sexual thing is very psycological if you can only get aroused dressed up i suppose.

Emma (Wife)

Another needs to come here read this realise why he dresses and then sorts hi head out

Hannah (wife) Sorry running out of patience with some of these men

Back mid summer pandemic I couldn't dress and asked Esme to wear stockings in bed and she said no so I said fine I'll wear them so put them on (yes I was aroused) .. However Esme was turned off feeling them on me. We can't expect what turns us on, stockings and sexy black lace lingerie (mmmmmmm lol) to turn our wives on. I agree if she wore sexy lingerie (take note Esme lol) we're even more aroused. Impressed today seeing Esme in a red and black dress and black tights working from home but think its got to be something that can be sorted out only getting aroused in women's lingerie and stockings. Maybe some here who this applies to could enlighten us on this. Davina

Another needing to dress to get aroused

This isnt good for a wife to hear sorry you dont arouse me but if i dress as a woman ill get aroused.

maybe his wife could wear sexy lingerie to arouse him so he doesnt have to but she may feel she shouldnt have to do that but a simple thing for a better sex drive but he needs to get over this as she will want sex with him as a man.

Too harsh?

Emma (wife)