Another Agony Aunt post
Confession
SINCE my wife caught me wearing women’s clothes and make-up the other day, life has been hell.
I used to think cross-dressing was a phase that would go away but the older I get, the stronger the urge is.
I’m a man of 48. My wife is 45. We’ve been married for 20 years.
I’ve tried discussing it but she shuts me down. This is affecting my sex drive and making me miserable.
I could perform if I was wearing stockings or make-up but my wife won’t hear of it and I now struggle to become aroused.
I have told my wife I won’t cross-dress again but I know deep down the urge will never go away.
Agony Aunts reply T
he urge to cross-dress will be a deep-rooted aspect of your personality which you can’t change at will but your wife probably feels this is not what she signed up for when you two got married.
Tell her you love her and that this is no rejection of her but you cannot simply suppress this.
What would you advise?
Youre right Emma they cant give it up and i think its unhealthy to give up something that helps you in this case dressing up as a woman woopee doo its not as bad as some wives think.
and wives does it hurt to dress up once in a while for some sexy fun when you know it makes your fellas head spin with desire?
Hannah (wife)
Is it a promise they can make? I'll stop dressing i dont think this is healthy to surpress these desires and what it gives them in benefits.
Again though psycological around the sex drive im sure tgirls love a bit of sexy fun dressed up but my husband isnt turned off doing it as a man hes probably more turned on the naughtyness of sex as a t girl with me but i also dress sext for him myabe these wifes arent into dressing up for sex or of an age where sex drive dwindles. not enough info
Needs to get a grip of himself occasional fun dressed up is ok but his wife will want a man in her bed not a sissy. Sorry that's harsh i know but he needs to man up and sort his libido out as a man
Hannah (Wife)
I'd be a rubbish agony aunt
Talk talk and talk is right but again the arousal dressed as a requirement needs addressing as can't expect a wife to have to have her husband dressed as a woman for him to get aroused. As in the other post maybe someone here can enlighten us on this? If it applies to you? I agree Emma a two part answer asap after being discovered sit down and talk this out and the second part is something else to discuss. All about talking it through this one. Davina
He got caught right i relate to this a lot having caught mine dressed.
They need to talk and its all about timing and i think its back to that wasted time and it needs to be asap after the discovery and get it all out in the open is the first point.
The second point arousal dressed Ok I like fun with him dressed but many wives want sexy fun with their husband as a man not a woman but why not give it a whirl if it improves things but he needs to work on his own head he cant expect every time they have sex for her to have to have him crossdressed.
Emma (Wife)