Chatting to a T girl on tvchix chat, I hope she will join here and seek some of our advice.

Wife left her because of her dressing even though she had trans friends.. a sort of Trans is fine but not my husband which we've come across time and again. That is sad enough..

Seems a breakdown in communication and a mind made up that its not going to work stop dressing or its over situation but for us t girls its not as easy as that when this thing/ hobby / fetish becomes a hobby and a bit of a coping mechanism.

Us men are really crap at admitting weakness, stress, depression, our feelings etc etc etc and for some of us this escapism is out outlet, our stress relief, our inexplicable and enjoyable thing that helps our mental wellbeing somehow.

The same t girl has kids and they know she is a crossdresser and although young and liberal minded it seems they too are ok with someone being trans but not their father and have actually purged their fathers feminine things..

For me this crosses a line and they are bang out of order.

Do they blame his being trans for the break up of their parents marriage?

What they don't realise is their fathers escapism and how crossdressing probably brings balance to his mental health and wellbeing, they obviously have no idea what they've done and the effect on their father, so their action in purging his property is bang out of order and thoughtless.

Whats others thoughts on this?

My view is sit down with the kids and explain the positives of being able to crossdress, expain this is something we cannot help and find hard to repress and repressing these feelings, bottling up stress, and the guilt for dressing is not good for ones mental health.

It is a harmless act even though it may be seen as what broke up their parents marriage there was no compromise and its not something that should in itself break up a marriage.. it's dressing up, its not perverted, its not sexual its just expressing oneself and presenting oneself in a particular way.. how can we better explain this to people?

What would they have said if their mother had dressed like a man.. probably nothing.

If she does come on wives especially and any t girls who have told the kids about their dressing ... what advice can we give her.

A frank an honest chat i feel is needed and a respect my property statement needs to be made.

Davina