Dear Coleen

My new partner is cross-dressing and also going into Manchester dressed as a woman.

He has had a close female friend for many years, but wants a relationship with me.

So is it possible to have a relationship with him but not be a part of his female side?

I can't come to terms with seeing him in female clothes and make-up - it would destroy my impressions of him and my feelings for him if I were to see him dressed as a woman.

Maybe he would be happy to keep this side of himself away from our relationship - that's what I'm hoping.

Can you advise?

Coleen says

Yes, I think it is possible.

Davina - Of course its possible but an agreement needs to be made as he will still want and need to crossdress and maybe go out on the tgirl scene dressed but if she doesn't want to be part of it that's the agreement. I think curiosity may get the better of her in time and she may want to see him dressed may want to go out and see what the tgirl scene is all about.. All in her own time.

I've known several couples over the years where the woman knows about her partner's crossdressing, but they have an agreement that it doesn't come into their relationship.

The only way to find out if he's OK with this is to ask him and talk about your feelings around it.

I think as long as you're both in agreement and respect each other's boundaries, then it can absolutely work.

However, perhaps you need clarification on the close relationship he has with this other woman - are they just close friends or is there more to it than meets the eye?

Davina - It can work if they're both open and honest about it and communication remains open.