DEAR DEIDRE: I ACCEPTED that my boyfriend is a cross-dresser, but it’s becoming the most important thing in the world to him.
We have been together for two years and he told me about his cross-dressing early on
I am open-minded and have bought him outfits, shoes and make-up, but it is taking over any time we have together.
If I point this out, he becomes defensive and says he will give it up – but we both know that he won’t.
I am 46, he is 40 and the chemistry between us is amazing but I am tired of all the fussing that goes with his outfit changes.
I just want a happy heart but I feel like he is taking advantage of my tolerance and that I am wasting my time being with him.
DEIDRE SAYS: A cross-dresser tends to feel driven endlessly to push the boundaries.
If you’ve reached the point that you can’t go along with it any more, tell him he risks losing you
A letter is good but there to answer questions and for gods sake ladies ask the questions don't bottle up and you men answer them.
9/times out of ten willing to bet its nothing more than dressing up.
Shunning it may lead to other activity to enable dreasing .
Hannah (wife)
Hannah (wife)
A letter works and rules. We moved up a few levels in Esme's acceptance but I knew not to push too much too quick. Emma on the other hand in 8 weeks got to a level of acceptance which took me and Esme 8 year. Davina
She should put a leash on him and pull him back to reality if he's obsessing over cross dressing and overdoing it and set her level of acceptance.
Write him a letter and a set of rules.
Hannah (wife)
Awful from her again I agree.
Acceptance levels are the key and pulling him back to planet earth if he's off to Venus.
Emma (wife)
Or pull him to Mars men are from Mars
More awful advice from this woman who has made a career out of answering peoples questions.. She really is rubbish.
Sit your husband down and say exactly this "Look I've accepted you as a T girl and I'm fine with it but you're pushing the boundaries too far like a kid in a sweet shop so it's time to set some rules and a level to your crossdressing that I am OK with"
You cant threaten that the relationship may end before you negotiate and find a compromise and yes we do push boundaries as I have.. can i dress when you're out? yes leave no evidence... can i dress when you're in but i'll stay up stairs... yes that's ok working from home upstairs dressed is fine when I'm home lunch time noting I asked her first and we moved up the levels of acceptance together culminating in can we go out with me dressed which we've done once and apart from twisting my knee was ok lol.
Its all about communication and setting acceptance levels and finding some enjoyment with crossdressing not about clamming up, not about moving boundaries before each other is ready..
How much does this woman get paid to answer these questions for that "RAG" of a Newspaper??