DEAR DEIDRE: I ACCEPTED that my boyfriend is a cross-dresser, but it’s becoming the most important thing in the world to him.

We have been together for two years and he told me about his cross-dressing early on

I am open-minded and have bought him outfits, shoes and make-up, but it is taking over any time we have together.

If I point this out, he becomes defensive and says he will give it up – but we both know that he won’t.

I am 46, he is 40 and the chemistry between us is amazing but I am tired of all the fussing that goes with his outfit changes.

I just want a happy heart but I feel like he is taking advantage of my tolerance and that I am wasting my time being with him.

DEIDRE SAYS: A cross-dresser tends to feel driven endlessly to push the boundaries.

If you’ve reached the point that you can’t go along with it any more, tell him he risks losing you