It’s been over 12 months since I had any Davina time primarily due to us both being home together (she caught me fully dressed/ made up once and freaked so I’m definitely back in the closet now! That said I’ve got a couple of days home alone today and tomorrow so feeling some femme time coming on… she’s recently bought some of this shiny pvc looking trousers which i feel the need to try on and get some pics of.

Wow!😳

I definitely find the urge to dress becomes far stronger in times of stress. The comfort of looking pretty and feminine definitely relieves that stress I feel better happier and calmer.

I'm not sure what the psychology of why that works, perhaps it's manifesting the motherly love we got when we were children when we were hugged and cared for my out mothers?

Or the feeling of looking pretty and desirable or just the feeling we get from the softer clothes.

There's definitely a comforting stress relief from dressing up. 🙂

The other thing I find is that if I suppress the need to dress, it gets more and more stressful. To the point I need to dress or I'll be an angry, frustrated grumpy person. 😠

Almost like the inner girl needs to be heard.

Once again not sure the psychology behind that.🤨

Yes, this seems to be the rhythmical cycle of trying to push it away. Ignore and pretend to be the normal tough guy average guy you should be and then seeing all the triggers you have mentioned causing every emotion under the sun. I will do what I can to live a normal family life but like most have said just wishing we could be who we want when we want would be so therapeutic. I'm not in a position that I can throw caution to the wind but if finances allow would certainly love the opportunity to dress and meet like minded friends in a safe environment should it be ever possible.

I know that feeling as well and I’m

Sure Chelle can see it in the way I am at home. I’ve had a really bad week had both my bank and credit cards hacked and works a nightmare. But no chance to put dress and makeup on at home. Will have to wait till next Saturday going to see Rocky horror show will try and get pictures idea is to go as Magenta 😱

I can go through periods in man mode at work, in sport etc where I don't bare a seconds thought to being Davina.

I can be stressed to the point I become a workaholic .. I'm back there now worrying about work.. Past the point where dressing was needed to quell my anxiety and stress throwing myself into work.. They could get rid of me tomorrow and all my knowledge and expertise and have to reinvent the wheel and learn from mistakes.. Probably big ones.. We think we're irriplacable but just a number a cog in the wheel.

Anything can spark my urge.

The stress of work knowing becoming Davina will dissipate it.

Seeing a presenter on GMB or Holly on This Morning as I work from home in black tights and heels and the urge to dress is strong.

Being out out or just in a supermarket seeing a well presented woman stylish etc and I want to emulate her look on myself.

Esme off out or to work in black tights and boots.. I want to wear lingerie and black tights and boots.

I'm stuck in a rut no option to dress and especially when bored wife and kids watching dross TV I think to myself I'm wasting a oart of my life that relaxes me, I enjoy and which makes me happy sat here miserable on my groundhog day when I could be playing with makeup and dressing up.. So frustrating.

Yep. I was thinking just this on the way home this evening. Had a massive rush on before Christmas that resulted in me buying lots of new dresses and jewellery from Ebay and had my first makeover. Since Christmas I've not bought anything and don't feel the "pull' to dress much. Don't get me wrong, if I had the opportunity I'd definitely take it but I'm just not getting that opportunity at the moment. It's so frustrating having new dresses etc and not being able to even try them on and not really 'feeling' it either 😥

How stressful is your work role