I think the very fact that we want to dress as women is a source of bewilderment to many our wives and girlfriends. It's not unsual to be asked 'Why would you want to dress as a woman?'.
The clothes can be uncomfortable, restrictive and unpractical.
Setting a side transwomen who dress to match their gender identity there seem to be numerous reason why men decide to dress as women from a purley sexual reason to it being fun and relaxing.
I wonder if it is possible to explain how we feel about being crossdressed so that our wives and girlfriends can empathise. One t girl I spoke to explained it to her wife as 'the feeling you had when you recieved that surprise present of a beautiful and expensive dress on our wedding anniversary'.
It is difficult to explain a feeling and the best I could come up with was the feeling you have when you are out for nice meal with friends or family. That feeling of being relaxed and contented. Of enjoying the experience. It leaves you with a warm glow.
Can anyone else have a go at epxlaining the feeling?
Katie x
When will you let him have is own profile?
And did you'd mess your long in and set up another Emrg17 account here as there's 2 of you lol.
Same it's fun not a serious hobby relaxing somehow.
Just feels different escape from the busy life as a bloke.
I asked him he said happy and relaxed.
Emma (wife)
" The only thing I would point out is after a few hours how a bra can stick in you ouch ". Agreed, though that does depend on the bra and how well it fits. Plus, I only find underwired bras are guilty of this though, so just avoid them (they're pointless anyway for us as our silcone boobs are moulded to shape and do not need that level of support).
Hi Debs
Glad to see you hear. Sent you an email about dropping FB. Speak later.
Katie x
The only thing I would point out is after a few hours how a bra can stick in you ouch
" The clothes can be uncomfortable, restrictive and unpractical. ". I'm bewildered by this statement. The fabrics are thinner, softer, nicer on the skin, sensual even. Male clothes conversely are heavy, rough and practical rather than comfortable.
It was a thrill leaving the hotel room walking down the corridor and past reception to my car. I'm convinced i passed as those who saw me didnt bat an eyelid.
Yes would do it again.
Hi Davina, well done on going out, it was a small step but a huge leap and I’m sure you will want to go out more now. I know that I do and always looking for an opportunity.
Jean x
It is hard to explain.
I've just had a night away with work in a hotel ready for an early start 2.5 hours away from work tomorrow. As my job is changing and its summer hols so kids off dressing time will be rare so took the opportunity to pack Davina.
I was going to one of the offices but told the person i was meeting wasn't there so went direct to the hotel and booked in at 1500 when the booking is open.
All the way up and yesterday in fact it felt nice to think i was escaping my hectic life for a few hours although I hate being away from home and away from my wife and kids..
Into the hotel sorted laptop out to do a bit of work and laid out my clothes wigs etc then a knock at the door the receptionist asking me to sign for the room hoping she didnt see my crossdressing gear on the bed.
Popped to get a bit to eat then back, quick bath and shave and got dressed doing my makeup immaculately not really taking more time just more care and heres the first thing I'd put on the lingerie which felt nice the bra not so nice but then the fake breasts weighing down and my body which i've torn and need to buy a new one, stockings and the dress and instantly felt nicer and different before putting o the makeup step by step seeing myself transform then the piesteresistance the wig this time a dark one and stepping into high heels seeing myself transformed in the full length mirror I looked a bit of alright.
so the first thing i like how the clothes feel on myself and i like how i can look transformed its pure escapism from mad male me into "Davina" a more relaxed person.. not a different person just me not an alter ego or sctzophrenic thing just a character I escape into and play with once or twice per month in the hotel room alone allowing myself to relax fully into character no one to disturb me.
No guilt for dressing knowing my wifes home for lunch and no kids gonna catch me dressed just me dressed relaxing doing some work on my laptop and chatting to other t girls on tvchix and skype nice to get a compliment on my makeup from other tgirls some doing the same thing away with work dressed up in a hotel room nice social chit chat about dressing up and our wives, acceptance, this forum and my blog.
How did i feel? great relaxed chilled out and still am back in male mode led in bed typing this frustrated how slow Wix is to make the text appear after typing this but none the less chilled out what a funny by product of crossdressing.
Simple enjoyment, R&R escapism oh and one more thing i left my phone charger in the car and wet out to get it as Davina mundane thing but exciting and no one batted an eye lid.
So can add been in public to my achievements as a crossdresser which my wife will freak out about lol
Davina