We are on holiday this week down in gloucester.
We where in Cheltenham today and my wife needed to go into wilkinsons for some bits and bobs.
When she went to pay i waited near the entrance to the shop, i was stood just near the makeup counter! And was looking at it thinking i wouldn't mind some of the Smokey eye shadow sets.
I didn't see my wife come up behind me!!
She said, "pink and purple won't suit you"! Pointing to the nail polish, i said i wasn't looking at that i was looking at the eye shadow sets!!! She just said "NO"! i said what do you mean no? She just said no again, and that was the end of that.
I didn't ask her to buy it so im not sure if she was referring to me wanting her to buy it for my birthday that was on monday as she hadn't got me anything, mainly as i didn't know what i wanted, well, i do but couldn't bring myself to say " well, what I'd realy like is if you got me something girly" 😁
Things where ok tonight, we went out for a meal on our last night.
I look at it as a positive not a negative, yes the reaction wasn't "ok dear I'll buy you some makeup for your birthday" but it was a nudge to let her know it isn't going away.
She's ok with me tonight, i think she's more mad about the situation than with me.
Anyway last go in the hot tub with Ducky! Before we head home tomorrow. 😁
Lots of love,
Catrionaxx
Ducky the Jacuzzi cleaner!
For me Kate is an alias for me. I haveththe same first letter. Then I just chose a more fun/girlier name. When I was younger we did this for night's out we gave ourselves drunk alter ego s. For when guys asked our names and also so we can blame our alter egos for the poor decision making. Haha. The reason for the same first letter is so if you forgot you could recover it easily.
Cat
I found the early conversations SUPER awkward. we used Whatsapp for most of our early convos. I have actually been in this situation. We went to buy some for me a 80s dressup and he said " I'll have to get one of those too" to which i replied... you can keep this one. We continued looking for the things i needed... i am terrible at shopping and he keeps me calm. Some of the things i needed he offered to lend me. We have also used humor with little one liners to ease it up - usually about him not having real boobs and stuff.
Perhaps there is some scope to do this, joke or shop together with halloween coming up.
Update on the "NO" comment from my wife.
I broached the subject today and asked her again what did she mean by no when she found me looking at make up....
Well, she just went very red and said she was just joking and that the coulors just didn't suit me! I've come to the conclusion she is more embarrassed than anything, She then went very coy and went off to do some ironing quite quickly. I'm going to leave it there for now but i definitely think giving her the letter is the best thing to do to stop any further embarrassment.
Catriona
Ask her this weekend what she meant by no no time like the weekend to talk
you may have indicated you're a little bit bisexual in one of your posts in the survey? will your wife like that? I can edit this if you need me to?
Letter is a great idea as long as youre there when she reads it and answer her quesitons
Emma (Wife)
Hi Catriona if you want to bring your wife in here the first thing she's going to do is read everything you've typed in here and if you're happy for her to read those things then no problem but be careful with bravado which can run away us wives may read into it something else xx
Emma (Wife)
P.S. Go and buy your own eye shaddow!! and happy to chat to your wife and help support but its a two way street hon xx
wives being on here may help if you wanted to mention it
You have the door ajar
So ask her did she mean no she wont buy you eye shaddow or no she doesnt want you to have it.
Spark some conversation .. does she know about this forum? has anyone told their wives that they're on here? debating why we crossdress?
I hope you get some good responses from the clever people in the forum to your experience today, ducky will just think you are quackers 😀. Loving our messaging by the way, Emma xx