Over the years, I’ve spoken to countless crossdressers and partners.
One thing that stands out is how varied our experiences are.
For some, crossdressing begins as a hobby—a playful escape, a bit of fun with fabrics and fantasy.
For others, it becomes something deeper: a need.
It offers peace, relief, or a way to process emotions. And for a few, it forms part of a core identity, almost like meeting your real self in the mirror.
I personally find it shifts over time.
What began as a secret thrill evolved into a sanctuary—a place I feel grounded.
So… where do you fit?
Has it changed for you?
Is it fixed or fluid?
There's always been a sexual element, basically it turned me on. A lot. I've been spending the past couple of years trying (on and off) to work out what the basis of it might be though. Even though I don't dress anymore, it reasserts itself every now and then and I find myself logging into reddit and posting an old picture, or thinking about the "good old days". It soon passes without the need to break out the fake boobs... mainly because I don't have them anymore :)