Barack Obama tweeted a quote from Nelson Mandela which read 'No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or his religion...'
So why do some people find a man wearing the clothes assigned to the opposite gender so abhorrent? We're not born with any perception of gender, it is something we are taught. Boy's are scolded for playing with dolls or wanting to dress as a princess and soon learn to hide that part of their personality.
I don't even think that it is a primeval urge. I think that we have evolved so far from the 'caveman' days when men and women were pretty indistinguishable - both covered with hair, with no make up, high heels or dresses! We are so far removed from those days that society now dictate what a man or woman should look like and we must conform or be 'hated'.
I do think that times are changing but I don't believe that it is natural to hate crossdressing, I believe that it is something we are taught and can be 'unlearned'.
Katie
Well, if you want it to be broadly accepted then I guess you will all have to break out of your houses and show the world who you are! Otherwise, it ain't happening. Most people don't care enough and find it weird enough to prefer you just don't do it.
I'll add here, that broad acceptance wouldn't make any of this easier on wives. It's the betrayal aspect of dressing that hurts, not the social stigma. The stigma part is your problem and most wives will look past that, especially if you're dressed away from home etc. No, having everyone accept you as a 'woman' so that you can freely hit Tescos in a skirt and heels, showing off your legs, enjoying people staring and you feeling attractive and pretty does NOT help a wife who feels betrayed because her husband prefers to spend his time with/as this 'other woman'. So acceptance won't change that, but it might prevent it by allowing men to fess up about their dual personalities from the beginning. At least then women will know what they're in for.
Just thought I'd put that out there.