Davina - Another article i’m commenting on as reading from scratch here lets see if we find similarities.
Sometimes, crossdressers hit a wall, and we need to take a breather.
Davina - I’ve never hit a wall even when I’ve been able to dress a few times in a week i’ve never hit a wall but have hit the opposite wall where crossdressing isnt available due to barriers more than walls.
It’s essential to take a step back and do activities that make us feel good.
Davina - for me this is sport not so much playing these days but watching or coaching. But even that can be stressful at times and can’t compare to the escapism of Crossdressing for me.
Sometimes we get carried away from all frenzy about the latest fashion or the latest makeup trends that we forget to relax.
If you’re feeling burnt out, don’t wait too long to do some self-care!
Davina - I’ve felt burnt out loads of times due to work and other stress in life but the option i need is Crossdressing Im terrible at self care.
Self-care is critical to treating the whole self.
It promotes happiness and better health.
Sometimes the words “self-care” can seem a bit confusing.
Yet, it’s actually quite simple.
Self-care is taking care of yourself.
It’s like how you’d take care of your friends and family.
You take care of yourself by eating healthy, meditating, and gaining confidence.
When you’re feeling down or need a mood boost, you can rely on self-care to get you through it!
Maintaining and having good mental, emotional, and physical health is imperative to a well-rounded crossdressing life.
These three aspects work together to impact our happiness and overall outlook on life.
Self-care is an essential thing for all crossdressers, no matter their age or gender.
Keeping up a healthy life includes all sorts of things.
While it may seem daunting to do, they take a lot of practice to get right! Make sure to make small goals for yourself.
At the end of the month, you’ll notice your lifestyle is healthier than ever before.
1. What is a crossdresser self-care?
Self-care is a term that is used for a series of intentional, purposeful health practices.
As crossdressers, we use this to promote our own well-being in physical, mental, and emotional domains.
Essentially, it’s the concept of reinforcing your personal health and enhancing overall wellbeing by acting upon it.
All self-care routines focus primarily on what you can do to promote your general wellbeing.
You’ll be better equipped to live your best life when you’ve taken the first steps to care for your mind and body.
Stress can quickly build up if you’re not taking the vital steps to maintain balance!
There are many ways to take care of yourself as a crossdresser.
These factors affect how well you’re able to fight off stressors and challenges in life.
It is not news how we crossdressers constantly battle prejudices and hostilities from other people.
That’s why indulging in self-care activities is the way to go.
A crossdresser’s self-care may include spending time for oneself, being away from social media, doing skincare, and participating in life-enriching activities.
It could even be shopping for crossdressing items.
When you do self-care, you are doing yourself a favor.
It relieves stress and conditions your whole being to become your best crossdressing self.
Davina - For me my best self-care would be more escapism more crossdressing.
2. Physical self-care
You need to take care of your physical body because its your main crossdressing asset and you want it to be able to function correctly. Bear in mind that there’s a strong connection between your body and your emotions.
Davina - This is true I feel much better in myself when im sticking to a diet seeing weight frop off and addicted to exercise but when i break from it due to work and life taking priority i put weight back on and us men also get body conscious and our metabolism is more likely as we get older to turn to fat not muscle.. I know i need to get back on a diet and exercise and need to make time for it which will also enhance Davina with a slimmer figure.
Achieving a healthy body will help reduce stress.
It can be challenging to stay on track with crossdressing when we’ve been grinding so hard that we forget to make an effort to keep caring for our bodies.
The bottom line is that you want to feel your best and remain productive to continue crossdressing.
The answer to success is focusing on the big picture.
Remember what you’re working towards.
And that is showcasing your femininity.
Davina - more to it than that just overall mental wellbeing and body wellbeing as a bloke as well as when dressed.
Every now and then, we should take some time to do things that pamper our physical bodies.
Being pampered is an integral part of physical self-care.
Physical self-care may include going for a walk, hiking, or simply taking time out to get a peaceful rest.
You could also do some MtF exercises.
There are also many different cosmetic beauty treatments to do. Facials and body waxing can be beneficial for your physical body.
We can also use this opportunity to practice some self-care routines. This could be anything from applying skincare makeup to doing a manicure.
3. Mental self-care
The way you think shapes your overall well-being.
Having a strong sense of self is vital, like looking in the mirror and recognizing yourself.
There are a lot of things that may go awry in our journey as a crossdressers.
But the worst thing that can happen to you is when your mind starts becoming unwell.
Davina - Mental wellbeing is comeing more and more into work but its just a tick in the box really.. They need us to work additional free hours off our own backs our own pride and want to complete a job.. They dont really care about stress and still talk about people suffering with stress as weak. Lots burn out, face depression and anxiety.. Crossdressing helps. Don’t ask me why but it does.
Mental self-care practices include doing things that keep your mind sharp.
This might be taking time for the hobbies that you love, catching up with fellow crossdressers, or getting away on vacation.
Fill yourself with activities that will benefit your growth!
Another way can be talking to fellow crossdressers for advice and guidance.
Davina - I chat most days to other crossdressers on TV chix and if i think of something like this article add something to the forum which helps me get my thoughts down and i hope helps others.
Sometimes all we need is someone who will listen.
Davina - Having an outlet who will listen to you and let you vent is great.
There are a few wives of T girls i chat to semi regularly and they’re fab.. I find we can chat about things i may be weary of chatting to my wife about and they ask me things they’re weary of asking their husbands about bouncing ideas thoughts and fears about.
When we acknowledge that we’re not alone in our journey, we become stronger than ever.
Mental self-care could also mean social media detox.
Social media detox is a span of time when a crossdresser refrains from using certain social media networks.
Sometimes the term social media detox can refer to avoiding all forms of technology use.
Social media detox enhances personal growth and mental health by taking a break from seeing the world through a screen.
Davina - I do spend a lot of time perusing tiktok, facebook and twitter.. Maybe pick up a book instead.
Being able to take care of your mental well-being requires you to be in the right frame of mind.
While it’s hard to be mindful constantly, it is essential to try and maintain a healthier outlook on things.
Determining healthy thoughts about yourself will help ensure that you do not get too disheartened under challenging crossdressing moments. You should not be overwhelmed with negativity when things aren’t going well for you.
4. Emotional self-care
Any crossdresser knows the importance of managing their emotions. If you can’t keep your stress levels in check or power through a rough patch, sooner or later, it will come back to bother you.
Davina - This is true we’re men we power through stressful situations and push on through to the other side thats what us men are supposed to do.. We dont realise (maybe we do) how much harm it does to our lives being stressed and maybe sometimes depressed.
There are a lot of ways to deal with uncomfortable emotions.
One way is learning how to cope with whatever emotion you might be feeling as soon as it starts to come about.
Coping skills can vary from crossdresser to crossdresser, of course. It includes things that help you acknowledge and express whatever unpleasant emotion you’re experiencin.
It is important to take the time to recognize your emotions in a safe space.
Depending on what you feel is appropriate, try engaging in activities that can help you express yourself and get feelings out of your body.
Try doing it through engaging crossdresser recreational activities, and meditation, maybe.
Davina - The problem is lack of crossdressing lol. Let alone recreational activities as Davina.
This help to ease mild depression and other issues resulting from chronic the stress of crossdressing.
Davina - more like the stress of not being able to crossdress.
It is important to spend some time every single day to reflect and care for your feelings.
The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to find an outlet.
Davina - Yes my outlet is crossdressing arghhhh and I’ve not time or space to do it.
It could be your partner or a fellow crossdresser whom you can speak with candidly.
Davina - I chat to other t girls and wives and sometimes to my wife but even thats hard with the kids about. Some i know are completely in the closet and have no one to talk to apart from on line. It is good to get things off your chest and talk to someone openly.
Journaling can help as well.
Davina - Or blogging or commenting on a forum.
Try setting aside some time every day for whatever form of emotional release works best for you.
Sometimes, troubles plaguing you are particularly severe and leave you feeling empty inside from time to time.
Make sure to seek help from trusted physicians and therapists, or the crossdressing community.
Davina - Something I’ve never thought to do too tight to pay for it really is counselling but i know lots of t girls and wives of t girls who have and theyve said its been beneficial.
5. How does self-care improve a crossdresser’s well-being?
Self-care has been a buzzword for quite some time now.
It’s understandable why the concept has taken off when you look at the benefits it can provide.
This is especially true if you have great ideas about how to practice crossdresser self-care.
Specific forms of self-care have also been connected to other health and wellness benefits.
One of which includes longer life.
Some of the most common benefits that come from making sure you are taking care of yourself on a daily basis include being able to: reduce anxiety and depression, reduce stress and improve resilience, improve your happiness, increase your energy levels, avoid burnout, and have stronger relationships with other people.
Having an effective self-care routine will improve your immune system.
And overall lend more energy and focus to tasks.
Just as athletes needs to care for and train their bodies so that they are able to perform better during a competition, crossdressers who take the time to manage their own bodies through regular self-care routines recover from challenges better than before.
For example, when you keep in good health mentally, physically, and emotionally, it can positively affect your day-to-day life and crossdresser activities that relate specifically to what you are trying to achieve.
The positive effects you reap from doing self-care encompass your crossdressing and gender expression.
It’s important to constantly challenge yourself personally.
Because of this you can set new goals for yourself and move forward in a meaningful way.
It’s valuable knowing you’re always growing and improving as a crossdresser.
Regardless of your busy schedule as a crossdresser, you must practice self-care.
Taking the time to look after yourself and your body can make for a very fulfilling experience.
It involves dedication, self-pampering routines, and knowing what it means to treat oneself well.
You are not only in good hands yearning for the aesthetics but also psychologically benefitting from self-care.
Davina - So in all this my plan needs to be the following..
Diet and fitness - I don’t want to enter the new year over weight after a lazy autumn and winter.
Finances - I need to assure our finances are putting money into savings for a rainy day as that worries me.
Work - I need to cut down on the hours I’m working and slow down on the expectations that I’ll deliver there and then. I need to prioritise and give people realistic timelines nit bust a gut to deliver.
Need more date nights with Esme as lives have become all about the kids..
I need to make time .. quality time to become and spend time as Davina
New years resolution in January.. We’re now in November heading rapidly to the end of the year… I’ve not stuck to them.
What about everyone else?