I am glad for you. It would be good to not push the subject to hard let it all come from your daughter

To some its a worst nightmare scenario the cat out of the bag but it also can be a good thing if there is a good reaction and its explained well. It sounds like it is going well and talking through why you dress and what it does for your metal health (inexplicable magic) she will understand. You may be one of the first on our little forum to not only tell your wife and find acceptance but also able to talk to a wider family member and find acceptance. I would ask that she keep it to herself if that's possible as she's accepted but never know how others would feel about cross dressing. Take it a step at a time. Good luck with the face to face chat.

Ok Rachel is out of the closet to chelle’s daughter. She text Chelle yesterday to ask if she was ok and that she knew it was me driving the car. We had a long conversation last night with the usual questions being asked. I asked her did she want to see some pictures of Rachel to which she said yes. We going to try and meet up over the weekend and have a talk face to face (male me) but as it stands all good. Just asked her not to tell rest of family at the moment What a wonderful young lady

Hi Rachel I truly hope this works out for you. I am several stages behind you in going out. I can only say from my own circumstances that at least I think this next generation are much more accepting of alternative lifestyles. I haven't told anyone else this but I recently told my youngest son who is having his own difficulties so I beared my soul to let him know we're only human, and told him of my feelings/difficulties of who I am. I can tell you that it has made us closer and he knows he can now tell me anything without judgement. Take care my friend. Ally

Its something we worry about being found out. We worry initially as cross dressers what will my girlfriend think but in the dating game and when younger I don't know if everyone was the same as us but we were forever kissing and doing other things and Esme wore short skirts heels etc and for a period of time I more or less stopped crossdressing until work and life stress started up and I turned back to crossdessing somehow and the worry turned to what will my wife think of my crossdressing.. Some of us confront this fear and then spend ages trying to appease any fears our wives have seeking assurance that they're assured that its not as bad as they think and indeed its a positive thing and its not a threat to the relationship.. We continue to worry about this despite reassurance from wives its OK they kinda get it although it must seem incomprehensible that putting on tights or stockings high heels and makeup and a bra etc is our escapism .. Trust us it is it works and we're better men for it. Then we've confided and our wives will not want anyone to know not even the kids.. There is always that chance somehow suspicion can rise. Panda eyes, something not your wives left out or driving past in the car whilst cross dressed.. It must be a worry as you don't know how people would take it or if they'll keep it to themselves but I'd say best fronted up together and an honest and open and indeed educational chat about it asking them to please keep it private. The talk or explanation is in my head somewhere for the eventuality that one or both kids ask me if I'm a cross dresser or another member of the family.. How I'd explain the unexplainable positives that crossdressing gives my mental health, how its something that dates back to when I was a kid liking the feel of tights and silky things and how when I was older I tried these items on liked how they felt on and from there the curiosity of I wonder how I'd look as a woman that turned into a hobby and something I found fun doing and something that allows me to escape my mental stressful male life. Its all in the explaining and the understanding and handing over that secrecy to someone else. Let us know how this plays out.. Good luck fingers crossed for you either way if its a question were you cross dressed or something else. Davina

Sarah Jane and I haven’t went through that, but if she asked if it was you driving, then maybe she is suspicious. She probably just wants to visit in general, but it may be brought up that the lady driving looked like you. How worried are you for her finding out? Do you think she would accept it?