Crossdressing is something that helps me with stress.. what's scary is when I can't dress or put off dressing to get work done increasing to ultra-stress and sometimes depression .. bad time of the year now 6 weeks kids off school so no hope of dressing and a hell of a lot to complete in work.

It really bugs me in life that I put this thing that helps with my mental health and enjoyment on the back burner compared with say asking the kids to do the dishes, tidy their rooms, bring towels down to wash and life is so unfair.. they have no clue of life and stress of adult life.

There is not enough public broadcasting of the positives of crossdressing so people fear it think the worst of it..

I get this. And your not the only one who dissapears for 6 weeks.

Lately for.me the depression had reached crisis point (hence regular therapist visits), but while my wife acknowledas i have ADHD which gets worse if rheres no dopamine sources, throws the "you werent allways like this" at me.

I just keep reminding her that i was worse, hence the debt spiral we were in until 60 hour weeks and overtime during COVID recovery.

My next dressing day is august 3rd at my sisters home, and i have a new dress i bought in june (self pressie as i didnt get any acknowledgement from wife) i have yet to try on.

Its frustrating when i see a friend have a cohort of drag friends they regularly go out with, and work on advocacy projects despite a failing marriage and i do wonder whos the bigger idiot. The one who is tiptoeing around others coercive reactions or the one no longer being coerced into suppressing at expense of peace at home.

Im just glad i dont have kids involved but i appreciate it is not that simple for most

You weren't always like this... We change, we mature, we want to relive some of our youth..

I hid my crossdressing when younger and thru teens and early 20s until I told my wife I was a crossdresser following her asking to dress me up etc.. thread on here about that.. but life got stressful the wonder and joy of kids also the worry about the kids and the cost of living and money worries.. led to chasing promotion hence higher profile work and higher stress levels and many reorganisations which would mean us being in trouble if someone decided at a whim my job was no longer needed.. worked my way up to current pay.. find a new job and start again.. all this weighs on our minds and all we ask and want is crossdressing some quality escapism time.

It's not asking much.

Women change far more than we do.. the thing we have no say in where they change their image and become mothers, heels no more casual comfy clothing and no sexy matching lingerie then they go thru the menopause and that does all sorts to them and meanwhile we're still stressed and also may have the addition which some have confided to pur group of no sex.. no sex leads to men feeling depressed even more as we can do nothing about it if a wife has made a decision for the marriage sod sex..

Life's not easy talking is key even if that leads to tears or arguments.

Some find compromise, some cheat, some take their dressing away from home and that leads to other things going on which we don't discuss here much..

The majority of us waller in depression and don't know how to escape it.

Can't tell your wife you're not happy that she's not wearing heels and she may not be happy you're wanting to wear high heels and women's clothing you wish she'd wear.. cant say you need sex and affection as you're wrong again and told don't pressure me etc.

Key is somehow maintaining a balance and I don't have the answer to that.. having kids is wonderful but can be a passion killer in the prime of pur lives live for the kids and they have no clue until they become parents themselves what we give up.

Financial worries is my main downer.. again becoming Davina helps me escape it all.

I was chatting on tvchix and analysing with someone why we dress and talking stress and how crossdressing helps etc and I was asked if I thought I had adhd or on some sort of autistic spectrum as well as trans spectrum.. analysis of how I am as a man etc and my need to be Davina .. but its quality time I need not just dressing up for the escapism to take real effect..

Not being able to transform into my alter ego is having an effect on my mental wellbeing and work has been near burnout.. glad of next week off.. but facing 6 weeks of summer holidays zero dressing.

Do you reach a stage where you're stressed and dressing helps.. but sometimes you need to get something done like work so forfeit dressing and go beyond stressed to a higher plane of stress where work work work happens .. I think its probably a dangerous level to be at.

It sure is 🥰🤗

Yes I think I know that stage well. Just keep telling myself there's brighter days ahead and it's all worth while. Take care x