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When you think shall I give up?

Is it pointless being a Crossdresser who doesn't crossdress as hasn't got time and opportunity.

I've had this thought recently beyond normal stress levels in work and no opportunity to dress.. last session just over an hour and change back..

Seriously thinking what's the point .. do i give up ..

Then wallop

Woman in Tesco nice makeup, nice dress, black tights and heels abd my first thought was I'd love to wear what she's wearing..

Jury's in ... Still a Crossdresser.

12 comments

12 Comments

Becca Riot

Jul 24, 2023

I am AuDHD. (That oh so pleasurable mix of ADHD chemical disfunction with autistic brain structures) and i do find dressing has recharged the dopamine needed for the ADHD aspects to be less impactful.

But i have experienced gender envy and disphoria while relaxed and charged as well as at stress. Likewise i have also fallen masculine when stressed.

I was just trying to figure out the causes of my switch with my therapist this week, who admits she has no experience in dealing with clients with genderfluidity (i am there for stress and dealing with conflict with wife during a borderline episode)

Davina

Jul 24, 2023

Replying to

You weren't always like this... We change, we mature, we want to relive some of our youth..

I hid my crossdressing when younger and thru teens and early 20s until I told my wife I was a crossdresser following her asking to dress me up etc.. thread on here about that.. but life got stressful the wonder and joy of kids also the worry about the kids and the cost of living and money worries.. led to chasing promotion hence higher profile work and higher stress levels and many reorganisations which would mean us being in trouble if someone decided at a whim my job was no longer needed.. worked my way up to current pay.. find a new job and start again.. all this weighs on our minds and all we ask and want is crossdressing some quality escapism time.

It's not asking much.

Women change far more than we do.. the thing we have no say in where they change their image and become mothers, heels no more casual comfy clothing and no sexy matching lingerie then they go thru the menopause and that does all sorts to them and meanwhile we're still stressed and also may have the addition which some have confided to pur group of no sex.. no sex leads to men feeling depressed even more as we can do nothing about it if a wife has made a decision for the marriage sod sex..

Life's not easy talking is key even if that leads to tears or arguments.

Some find compromise, some cheat, some take their dressing away from home and that leads to other things going on which we don't discuss here much..

The majority of us waller in depression and don't know how to escape it.

Can't tell your wife you're not happy that she's not wearing heels and she may not be happy you're wanting to wear high heels and women's clothing you wish she'd wear.. cant say you need sex and affection as you're wrong again and told don't pressure me etc.

Key is somehow maintaining a balance and I don't have the answer to that.. having kids is wonderful but can be a passion killer in the prime of pur lives live for the kids and they have no clue until they become parents themselves what we give up.

Financial worries is my main downer.. again becoming Davina helps me escape it all.