She's finally here after a few hours discussing Crossdressing last night my wifes signed up on here as Davinawife.. Now Maybe Emma and Rebecca will stop nagging me lol.
I just buried my head in the sand and was like if I don’t see or mention it , it’s not real.
I did get better and would be ok coming home in my lunch break and see him dressed and accepted he wasn’t gay, it was just something he needed to do to unwind. Can’t say I still fully understand why but that’s ok.
We are planning a girls night in , get dressed up , meal movie and drinks, small steps.
Yes I have a good one and it’s nice to see his blogs have helped both wife’s and cross dressers.
I think that maybe my wife is OK with my crossdressing. I think she just puts it to the back of her mind as it's not really that important to her. As you say life is hectic and with two teenage sons it's pretty full on.
Sometimes I wonder if it's not me being selfish in wanting more. I keep prodding and poking to get a reaction and then clam up if she says anything. I guess in someway I can't understand her complete disinterest - but then again I have other interest which she's show little or no complusion to be involved with. Maybe she's just at a point where she knows enough to satisfy herself that I'm not gay, I don't want to live as a woman and as it doesn't affect her in anyway she's happy to leave it at that.
She's really loving and supportive of me and I coudln't ask for more. It's just I have this nagging feeling that won't go away. I know everyone is right, that I shoudl just grit my teeth but it never seems the right time. I guess the letters are a bit of a cop out as it puts the ball in her court.
Great to have you here. Yes, I'm the keeper of reality here haha. Can't let these men disappear in a cloud if pink fog or no one will be able to live with them. I've known a long time about my husband but I'd guess I'm in the same age bracket as you and Davina. In the middle of raising young kids and life is basically chaos etc. My husband didn't tell me the entire truth though and I discovered what crossdressing is really about after a few years of marriage. So that wasn't easy.
I guess I'm now stuck in the tolerate/accept stage but I don't want any involvement. I'm impressed you were able to buy wigs etc. I don't like seeing my husband in a wig. It weirds me totally out! But he always says I'm just very straight while he's obviously kinky and he does seem to understand now why I find it so difficult. I can't see the man below the wig etc. It seems to affect my attraction to him the rest of the time, if that makes sense. I try working on it but no luck so far.
Anyway, I hope you do stay and chat here. I keep this place to myself because it's my sanity having a venting area that doesn't include my husband. He knows I'll talk about something if it bothers me. I have verbal diarrhoea that way haha. I wish I could share some of it with Katie's wife as I think she's struggling to discuss the crossdressing with him.
Katie, that's actually quite interesting that you took the time to write a letter, and your wife ignored the crossdressing parts. She's obviously in a bit of turmoil about the situation but maybe doesn't want to hurt you by voicing it? Could you somehow reassure her that you won't be offended (even if you are!) if she has something bothering her? I just worry that she's a bit stressed about it and has shut down communication. I did that for years and it almost made me physically sick. I know she's a very chilled person from what you've described, and maybe she really doesn't have any thoughts about it, but surely if she was completely comfortable with the crossdressing she'd at least acknowledge it in the letter, even if it's just to tell you she understands. You know? Please keep us updated as this must be a bit confusing and frustrating.
Oh, and Esme, your hubby is definitely a role model crossdresser. Hence the 'Davina Dresser' being our code name for the good ones. I definitely use his behaviour to gauge whether my own husband needs a kick up the butt or reminding that he's out of line. Luckily I think they're actually at very similiar levels. But I do think the Davina Dresser is not a problem in a relationship, whereas there are plenty of crossdressing men who are obsessive and selfish and make terrible partners. If any of them stumble onto our wee forum, it gives us a chance to kick them up the butt, too, on behalf of their wife and women everywhere lol.
I worked from home today and typical a delivery 11-12 and one of the wigs arrived yesterday a darker one with blonde highlights.
So put minimal makeup in and dressed 0930 ish just to see how it looked.
Makes my old wig look naff.
Parcel arrived at 11:10 so got dressed and fully made up after that weird how quickly you forget how to do your makeup after a few months but looked ok.
Shown my wife a pic and she said I looked ok and nice comments on tvchix so far as I made it my new profile pic.
Makes me look so different compared to the dumb blonde look lol.
My wife this morning said get dressed and when the delivery comes answer the door as Davina... not sure if she was joking or not lol
I will give her the heads up you're asking where she is but not been on so long will never catch up
Where are you Esme?
Glad you're here Davina wife have fun with it he seems a nice guy / girl nothing to worry about just have fun and relax.
Any thing you need to talk about just put it on here even if he can read it you can both benefit from others answers.
And go on give him a kiss as her he doesn't bite does he? Hehe
Hanna (wife)
Almost 2 years
Glad you're doing ok and planning a girly night in
Emma (wife)
Hi Emma and Hannah
Thank you for the welcome ladies.
Hannah we ordered the wigs of eBay, lots of choice, colours , length etc.
How long of each of you know about your husbands cross dressing.?
Thanks esme x
Hi sindy
Thank you for the welcome,
It was hard at first,
I just buried my head in the sand and was like if I don’t see or mention it , it’s not real.
I did get better and would be ok coming home in my lunch break and see him dressed and accepted he wasn’t gay, it was just something he needed to do to unwind. Can’t say I still fully understand why but that’s ok.
We are planning a girls night in , get dressed up , meal movie and drinks, small steps.
Yes I have a good one and it’s nice to see his blogs have helped both wife’s and cross dressers.
Thanks esme 😊
Hi all,
Doing good thanks, reading all your blogs, stories etc as definitely helped. Girls night planned for a Friday in December. Earliest we can do lol.
Plan on meal movie and drinks.
Davina looked good in new wig, darker colour suited him.
Esme 😀
The wife's ok told me to sort baby sitters 15th December for girls night in .
Such a busy few weeks up to the new year
DavibDavibaDavina
Me too Sindy x
Hope Davina wife still ok
Rebecca (wife)
I enjoy your posts too Sindy
Emma (wife)
Hi Sindy I love reading your posts make sure I don't go off into that pink fog lol.
Katie I've been where you are and thought the same and my wife's been where your wife is too.
Coming here has helped my wife to read other wives views with the wives taking over the last few weeks.
I hope other t girls reading here are finding some of thisbchatter helpful.
Have a good weekend all.
Davina
Hi Sindy
I think that maybe my wife is OK with my crossdressing. I think she just puts it to the back of her mind as it's not really that important to her. As you say life is hectic and with two teenage sons it's pretty full on.
Sometimes I wonder if it's not me being selfish in wanting more. I keep prodding and poking to get a reaction and then clam up if she says anything. I guess in someway I can't understand her complete disinterest - but then again I have other interest which she's show little or no complusion to be involved with. Maybe she's just at a point where she knows enough to satisfy herself that I'm not gay, I don't want to live as a woman and as it doesn't affect her in anyway she's happy to leave it at that.
She's really loving and supportive of me and I coudln't ask for more. It's just I have this nagging feeling that won't go away. I know everyone is right, that I shoudl just grit my teeth but it never seems the right time. I guess the letters are a bit of a cop out as it puts the ball in her court.
I know what I need to do - I'll keep you posted.
Katie
Hi Davina's wife! (Esme)
Great to have you here. Yes, I'm the keeper of reality here haha. Can't let these men disappear in a cloud if pink fog or no one will be able to live with them. I've known a long time about my husband but I'd guess I'm in the same age bracket as you and Davina. In the middle of raising young kids and life is basically chaos etc. My husband didn't tell me the entire truth though and I discovered what crossdressing is really about after a few years of marriage. So that wasn't easy.
I guess I'm now stuck in the tolerate/accept stage but I don't want any involvement. I'm impressed you were able to buy wigs etc. I don't like seeing my husband in a wig. It weirds me totally out! But he always says I'm just very straight while he's obviously kinky and he does seem to understand now why I find it so difficult. I can't see the man below the wig etc. It seems to affect my attraction to him the rest of the time, if that makes sense. I try working on it but no luck so far.
Anyway, I hope you do stay and chat here. I keep this place to myself because it's my sanity having a venting area that doesn't include my husband. He knows I'll talk about something if it bothers me. I have verbal diarrhoea that way haha. I wish I could share some of it with Katie's wife as I think she's struggling to discuss the crossdressing with him.
Katie, that's actually quite interesting that you took the time to write a letter, and your wife ignored the crossdressing parts. She's obviously in a bit of turmoil about the situation but maybe doesn't want to hurt you by voicing it? Could you somehow reassure her that you won't be offended (even if you are!) if she has something bothering her? I just worry that she's a bit stressed about it and has shut down communication. I did that for years and it almost made me physically sick. I know she's a very chilled person from what you've described, and maybe she really doesn't have any thoughts about it, but surely if she was completely comfortable with the crossdressing she'd at least acknowledge it in the letter, even if it's just to tell you she understands. You know? Please keep us updated as this must be a bit confusing and frustrating.
Oh, and Esme, your hubby is definitely a role model crossdresser. Hence the 'Davina Dresser' being our code name for the good ones. I definitely use his behaviour to gauge whether my own husband needs a kick up the butt or reminding that he's out of line. Luckily I think they're actually at very similiar levels. But I do think the Davina Dresser is not a problem in a relationship, whereas there are plenty of crossdressing men who are obsessive and selfish and make terrible partners. If any of them stumble onto our wee forum, it gives us a chance to kick them up the butt, too, on behalf of their wife and women everywhere lol.
Nice to finally have you here. :-) x
No way to answering the door nosey neighbours
Mrs Davina is great reading what you mad women have typed has helped her thanks all for welcoming her
No plan for the girls night in yet have fun yourselves tho tonight
Davina
You should have answered the door as Davina what a story that would be to read here lol.
How's Mrs Davina doing?
Planned that girls night in yet?
We've got one tonight planned I got half day so popped in here and have picked him out something to wear tonight.
Planning on dinner, movie and wine.
Lots to catch up with in here today as wasn't here yesterday.
Emma (wife)
Where you get the wigs from?
Hubby needs a new one and Christmas is coming
Hannah (wife)
I worked from home today and typical a delivery 11-12 and one of the wigs arrived yesterday a darker one with blonde highlights.
So put minimal makeup in and dressed 0930 ish just to see how it looked.
Makes my old wig look naff.
Parcel arrived at 11:10 so got dressed and fully made up after that weird how quickly you forget how to do your makeup after a few months but looked ok.
Shown my wife a pic and she said I looked ok and nice comments on tvchix so far as I made it my new profile pic.
Makes me look so different compared to the dumb blonde look lol.
My wife this morning said get dressed and when the delivery comes answer the door as Davina... not sure if she was joking or not lol
Davina
Wow you bought him 2 wigs lol I bet he can't wait to try them on have you seen them when they have something new to try on they can't wait.
If you want to try things little steps a kiss and see how you feel but don't go out of your comfort zone hon.
And Katie need the advice and just talk or you'll never know and she will just keep ignoring it.
Emma (wife)
Hi Davina wife I'm another accepting wife on here nice to see you here.
Katie sit her down cup of tea and discuss the parts of the letter she avoided.
Hannah (wife)
Fab to have you here Davina wife
Katie Davina is right she ignored the crossdressing bit and it will eat you up inside unless you talk about it.
Bring her in here it's a safe place.
Rebecca (wife)