Its frustrating isn't it something so simple yet OK it is strange too. I joked with Esme about going out more dressed up and she said with the wrong end of the stick if you dressed full time we'd be through.. I didn't say that and mynurge isn't that great but its gone from a few times per year when younger to once or twice a week is really helpful to my mental health. The sexuality side of it from talking to others is null and void for some and important for others and wives worst nightmares and probably one of two things that weighs heavy on their mind.. What if he's gay or bisexual when he's crossdessed I know is a wife's fear and I think the second fear is what if people find out he's a cross dresser what will they think of me and him.