Sorry if it seems I'm pushing sexuality I thought it might spark people's attention get them posting as it is the elephant in the room and yes I'm ok with our situation both being bi.

Good answers again Davina let someone else have a go haha.

I'll stop pushing the sexual side of you like but as I said it is one of the things wife's worry about so needs to be discussed.

Going back through some posts Hannah is one thing but are you pushing the Bisexual agenda? I don't mean that as a dig but every post so far has been to do with sexuality which is only a part of Crossdressing and for a lot of us a very small part. I understand why you'd keep raising though .. are you sure you're ok with the Bi thing? need some reassurance?

Does it matter if a husband or wife is Bi or becomes Bi? Thats a question for a wife as asking me "Davina would it matter to you if Esme was Bisexual?" my answer would be no i'd think that was pretty sexy if Esme was Bisexual but reverse and ask Esme "Esme how would you feel if Davina was Bisexual?" and I'm certain she'd say she wouldnt like it.

Sex is sex fun is fun no.matter who's doing what. - True but again as long as one is faithful.. single people or those in open relationships crack on and be whatever and do whatever.

It seems t girls can admire other t girls - Correct I chat to a lot of t girls on TV chix who look amazing as women and look very attractive.

It seems many have racy chats together from time to time if they intend to act on it or not. - Some do yes a lot bravado maybe? and some do act on it.

It seems t girls keep contact on Skype where they talk when dressed. - I've chatted to you and your husband when dressed on skype and to Emma and her husband and have chatted to other t girls and wives on skype when dressed some from on this group and some i know from Tvchix.

So if he's a bi crisscrossed or even a little curious or Randy when dressed does it matter if he doesn't actually meet someone physically and enact the bisexual act physically with another person?

Wives would have to answer this but it is funny how on tablets crossdressing is changed to crisscrossed lol - I sometimes get randy when dressed and turned on by how i look / what i'm wearing i dont think that matters but sure it would matter if i enacted something sexual with anyone bar Esme.. she would be very pissed off no doubt lol.

Hannah you live a very liberated sex life and unlike us the kids have moved out so you are free to live as you wish in the bedroom or dungeon lol.

It worries wife's greatly I know but so what if he fancies their t girls or gets off online dressed as.people get off on them or vice versa as long as he's not doing it physically person?

Again this is a question for wives to answer.

If he is no curious you can always add spice into the bedroom with a toy or even dare I say it a strap on and ladies you can learn to be dom over him if that floats your boat.

Hannah you are aweful lol your husband is either very lucky or requires the SAS to save him.

Davina

Going back through some posts.

Does it matter if a husband or wife is Bi or becomes Bi?

Sex is sex fun is fun no.matter who's doing what.

It seems t girls can admire other t girls it seems many have r acy chats together from time to time if they intend to act on it or not. It seems t girls keep contact on Skype where they talk when dressed.

So if he's a bi crisscrossed or even a little curious or Randy when dressed does it matter if he doesn't actually meet someone physically and enact the bisexual act physically with another person?

Doesn't matter to me as we've both discovered we're both bisexual liberatea and sex for us now kids moved out is fun and we've introduced others to our fun and discovered the fun of bieng bisexual.

It worries wife's greatly I know but so what if he fancies their t girls or gets off online dressed as.people get off on them or vice versa as long as he's not doing it physically person?

If he is no curious you can always add spice into the bedroom with a toy or even dare I say it a strap on and ladies you can learn to be dom over him if that floats your boat.

Hannah (wife)

Are we.back in this?.

There does seem to be a high number of tgirls.who are bi if they act in it or fantasize

We've chatted about sexuality a few.times and he's straight but he does like to act fem and he's said he can see how some tgirl s turn bi or try things as chatting to.others it seems they think it increases their femininity.

I think he's happy that we play together as girls and also play scenarios which I won t go into but I've dressed as a man and pretended to chat him up which was a laugh and had a surprise for him but I'll stop there l ol.

Emma (wife)

Don't get hung up on sex and sexuality

When you're dating you are at it like rabbits can't keep your hands off one another

Then you settle down some have kids sex becomes a chore to have kids

Then sex is different after kids to find alone time.

It took ages to get out sex drive back then out came crisscrossing hit our sex drive them we tried sex him dressed and I liked it then he started teasing on web cams and I encouraged it as we made money off other people's fetish

Then he met another t girl they had sex i thought it was over but we talked it meant nothing to him just sex i kinda got it then we had a 3some me hi m dressed and another t girl I saw him doing things it turned me on seeing him doing things trying to keep it clean

We met a couple tgir l and wife and I discovered being more open minded the next sex phase where sex is sex it's fun and realised we are.both bisexual and our sex life together has improved and we have fun with others

Not for everyone but don't rule it

I get what youre saying Davina

I think were brought up to be Straight and scarty to think of your husband as Bisexual as Himself or as a tgirl

I get the situational bi thing too so its best to avoid it

If he ever did anything dressed with another t girl its his guilt to keep I wouldnt want to know what hed got upto

Em (Wife)

Hi Davina

As we discussed it's a matter of not putting yourself that situation. Or at least having the where with all to walk away if anything could happen.

I think that that goes not only for a bi situation but any situation that may mean you are unfaithful.

Katie

Agreed Emma

Cheating is cheating.

Esme once said to me if you do anything as Davina with someone as long as you dont tell me or as long as I never find out then it cant hurt her.

It would be easy to do if I wanted to do that. Ive even been offered money to meet but I'm no Escort or Hooker.

It's nice flattering even to be fancied as a Tgirl and to know you can turn someone on in your "female" appearance an ego boost and can add to a feeling of femininity (I kniw Sindy we cant equate our crossdressed feelings 100% to how it reallynfeels to be a real woman)

Myself and Katie have had a lot of discussion around this topic and have concluded that some Tgirls become situationally Bi where they get into a situation where they meet a man (yuck) or another tgirl alcohol is involved along with flattery and the situation leads to some form of sexual contact which from talking to other t girls does happen even to tgirls Ive chatted to for years who could easily fall into the "Davina Type tgirl" bracket as youve all created as a label.

Ive chatted to some girls for years on Tvchix who have fallen into this situationally bi predicament and been seduced and flattered into something sexual which theyd never intended doing ever.

The answer to this is avoid that sort of scenario and dont put yourself into a position where you could become situationally bi.

This sitationally bi thing also seems more prevalent with tgirls whos crossdressing has been rejected by wives\GFs or pushed away from home.

My opinion on Sexuality has changed a lot to do whatever rocks your boat but still the sight of two men kissing makes me say Yuck but its an accepted part of our Society more so than CRossdressing ... How would I react seeing two women kissing? Probably think it was quite sexy .. And how would i react to seeing two tgirls kissing? If they looked like women again probably think it looked quite sexy as were very visual like that us men.

So beware the situationally Bi Situation LOL

Davina

Let me even it up a bit 2-1 id be happier him being a tgirl than bisexual.

And if he was or is bisexual then id hope he never acts on it cheating is cheating if its with a womaN, tgirl or man.

Way to go Sindy being Bisexual isnt a bad thing

Put me back a few years Davina and I'd say None of the above and I'd have been so wrong and missed out on how diverse life can be with a crossdressing husband and cant believe only a few weeks back how scared i was that he may be bisexual but sex is sex it doesnt matter who with its all good its all fun getting off is getting off if its cyber sex phone sex Cam sex or meeting someone for sex as long as its consenting not done behind somenes back and you dont fall in love with whoever whats to worry about.

Davina i Wouldnt want To see hIm as a man with a man and that doesnt interest him but as a tgirl with a tgirl im ok with and so is he

Dont get hung up on it tgirls or wives programmed to think being bi is wrong as Katie said were all a little bi just some of us are more adventurous than others and go for it

Hannah (Wife)

Dont give up Sindy keep working on it.

So two ladys have given a verdict and I must say so far im surprised 2 out of 2 would have no problem if their husbands were bisexual. I wasnt expecting that.

More questions from my chats with other tgirls

Would you accept bisexuality with him as a tgirl with other t girls or with men?

Or is your acceptance more akin to him as a man with a man?

A growing theory that there is a difference when you involve the images or portrayal of a woman.

Some say its a new sexuality.

Well, none of the above is the optimal preference, Davina, lol.

And I know why I feel the way I do and it's just a very strong and rigid love of masculine expression. And believe me, in my youth I put myself in the way of almost every sexual option alive. I was rather a Wild one, and very open minded, and often lamented to a few bisexual and gay friends of mine that I wished I was bi or gay! Bloody straight men were a pain in the ass lol. But, alas, even when very hot gay or bi women hit on me I just couldn't make it happen. Everything turned off. I'm sadly as straight as an arrow, (...and to think I wouldn't have even cared coming out to my family! Making me straight was a bit of a waste when I think about it!) I've told my husband many times that he's a an idiot marrying me because I'm the worst partner for a crossdresser. I really think a woman needs to have a bit of sexual flexibility to stay happily partnered with someone who likes to wade about in the gender pool. Doesn't mean they're bisexual but does mean they're not as inflexible as I am.

But, we are what we are. I can change is this about as much as my husband can change being a crossdresser. We're just not very compatible in the sexual sense but we're working on things anyway.

Lol Sindy you got me lo!

Ok for him to be bi but not a crossdresser..

Lets open that one up hands up who would prefer :

A) A bisexual boyfriend or husband

B) A crossdressing boyfriend or husband

C) A bisexual crossdresser

D) None of the above

Really does shock me Sinders that You'd be ok him being bi but its the ocassional crossdressing you dont like.

I think it's hard for anyone to categorically state that they are not bi-sexual unless they have been put into a situation where bi-sexuality might be the preferred option. I don't have any problem with being bi-sexual. I've never been put into a position where it is an option so consider myself heterosexual. As I'm married and intend to stay so I'm unlikely ever to find myself in the position for a bi-sexual encounter.

I watch a programme on Ancient Rome and basically the concept of heterosexuality and homosexuality did not exist. It was considered natural and unremarkable for men to be sexually attracted to both teenage youths of both sexes.

The idea of homosexuality as being a sin was bought forward by religions which is why there is a stigma today. It is nothing to do with what is natural but everything to do with religious teachings and therefore societies view.

I think that Hannah has gone with the flow and doesn't have any hang ups about being bi-sexual which is why she has been able to accept her husbands crossdressing. If she fancies him dressed as a woman she is not calling into question her sexuality. She is not worried about her sexuality being questioned.

Katie

I've already said before that I don't care if my male partner is bisexual. My husband isn't but I dated bi guys before him. Didn't bother me.

I'm far more bothered that my male partner wants to look female on occasion. I didn't sign up for a 'two for one' deal. I like men because I'm NOT bisexual.

So yeah, bisexual okay. Crossdressing, not okay.

Davina will be crying into his pillow over that one, as I know he thinks I'm nuts for thinking this way, lol. Sorry Davina. Just how it is. :-D

I was taken aback when Esme asked if i was gay and would be just as taken aback if she asked if i was bisexual likewise if before we married if id said to her i was bisexual or a crossdresser no doubt she may have run a mile.

What set me aback the most was i was quite homophobic at the time and she knew it.. The sight of two men kissing enough to turn my stomach but now im more of the view live and let live love is love and all that but please men dont kiss in front of me still.

Sexuality like crossdressing is on a sliding scale and some can slide one way or the other to differing degrees be it cyber chat or physicsl stuff. A lot of tgirls are bi or whatever sexuality it is when the attraction is to the image of a woman but the biology is male under the clothing and wig and makeup.

There are some stunning looking tgirls and yes ive been In A top 40 did my confidence the world of good and i got messages Asking me to hook up Lol Nooo Chance! But at the end of the day i Would think the vast majority of wives woukd want the traditional straight non crdressing husband and would run a mile if told about it pre marriage.

Maybe Im wrong and younger People are more open to this Sliding Scale of sexuality?

But me Straight Crossdresser the only tgIrl get My hands on is myself lo!

Davina

I got over the crossdressing and weve turned it into a fun thing.

I posted on here that i was scared he was bi and id maybe pushed him into it.

Yes I asked if he was Gay at the beginning too.

Well i can confirm he is bi and although i had fears were both of an age where we feel sex is sex fun is fun neither of us about to run off with someone else so its not worried me as long as its safe and nothing more than fun.

Not what people were expecting i doubt but it doesnt worry me that He's a Bi Tgirl as he still loves me and i love him .

Hannah (wife)