Sorry Ive not been on for a while life and work and all that Ill try to catch up I promise.
Right so this may or may not be something we want to discuss here if its not Im sure Davina can delete it if unsuitable and a ta embarrassing but here goes.
OK so I find out hes a crossdresser, I cried, I asked if he was gay or bisexual or did he want to be a woman, we talked I wanted to see him dressed we talked some more I found comfort in thats not gay or bi and doesn’t want to be a woman but he likes to relax dressed although it is also a big turn on for him dressing and looking like a woman (he does look like a woman its an amazing transformation).
We’ve had a lot of fun with dressing him and shopping and I even re-vamped my image as I had fallen into the contentment trap of no makeup, put on a bit of weight, flat shoes, trousers and really not making a lot of effort with how I looked which flipped a switch in me as we discussed his crossdressing one reason given he’s wearing things I used to wear which he misses so with the shopping for girly things for him it was fun and I joined a gym, dieted, changed my hair, bought new cosmetics, dresses, lingerie and heels it cost us a load both of us and it was so nice to gain compliments on my appearance and this “hobby†brought us a lot closer.
Now onto the juicy bits we’ve had sex with him crossdressed now many times and its been a lot of fun once I got over omg its like I’m kissing and touching a woman once you get down to it that all fades away but I did have an OMG does this make me bisexual what does it mean.
I got over this its my husband and he’s dressed as a woman and the sex is great with him as a man or woman although I think he’s far more excited and “loving†for want of a better description when hes dressed up. I can see beauty in women but its not a pfwooor id love to be with her kinda thing “I don’t fancy women I am not BI†phew
So that was my weird phase thought am I bisexual and now onto him and believe me i’ve asked him many times if he’s bisexual or gay trying to get my head around dressing to which he’s strongly said “NO! And stop asking me!†he even said he was a little “homophobic†at one point but our more recent chats he’s more “Each to their own what they do in their own lives if whatever as long as it doesnt involve us they can do and be with whoever they likeâ€
SO … a few weekends back and here’s the bit I dont know if is suitable for the forum or not we had a girls night in and we were having sex.
I was performing an act on him trying not to be graphic about it and having chatted to friends where we were discussing fetish and bdsm (no idea how this subject came up in the coffee break) I slipped a finger back past his bits and gave him a rub back there and then slowly up there and his head near popped off.
He asked what I was doing and I asked should I stop and he said hell no I like it but I feel a bit weird about it. Anyway I continued playing and he had an intense orgasm like ive not seen him have which he said was like a wave of orgasms. Ive had multiple orgasms so I kinda guess being stimulated front and back (trying so hard to keep this polite) and cumming with both areas stimulated gave him a multiple orgasm.
Anyway afterwards we had sex and he/she lol returned the favour but he was very quite and subdued and I asked him what was wrong and he said I dont know I liked what you did but its a bit Gay to which I said hang on you’re dressed as a woman and you’ve just been “fingered†which bit do you consider GAY and I know you loved it but how does it make you gay i‘m your wife not a man were you imagining I was a man “HELL NO!†was his reply but he said it just doesnt feel right being touched there and again he said it felt gay but it felt nice. men are strange why dont they just say what they mean, what they like and what they want?
I said would you like me to do it again and he went quiet so I said ok I wont do it again and he said well and I said you loved it didnt you I could tell to which he sheepishly said yes it felt strange but it felt dirty or sexy however he put it and yes he’d like me to do it again in the future.
So next morning I looked it up on the google and explained that his g spots up there and told him women in work brought it up as a way to make a mans head pop up and surprise him and not to worry about it
In fact there are loads of searches on google “my wife touched my anus and I loved it does it mean I’m Gayâ€
Here’s one reply from a sex expert:
Many guys find themselves turned on by the idea of anal play,or have had a surprising yet pleasurable experience in the past But they hold back from exploring anal stimulation out of fear of a three letter word. G A Y.
A lot of guys worry that if they like anal play, they must be gay. And they don’t feel gay ie they don’t suddenly want to be with men, they like the ladies.
So instead of exploring the pleasures of anal, they shy away, and miss out. Some shy away as they don’t want their ladies to think because they like anal play that they may be secretly gay or bisexual.
Good news guys. All men, gay and straight, have basically the same sexual system. It doesn’t matter exactly who or what turns you on, your basic anatomy is the same. So gay guys and straight guys both like oral sex for the same reason. And gay guys and straight guys like anal play for the same reason – it feels good. Your body is wired to make anal play feel arousing. Anal play allows you to reach new parts of your sexual equipment. Parts you might not even know you have, that are there, ready to bring you more pleasure, stronger orgasm and more intense arousal.
So if anal play makes you curious, go ahead, indulge in a little self-stimulation or get your partner on board for prostate massage. Anal play doesn’t define who you are anymore than a blowjob or any other kind of sex play.
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Here are two other links
https://www.kinkly.com/2/1391/beyond-missionary/anal-sex/the-5-rules-of-anal-play-for-straight-men
http://uk.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/249_love_tip.html
Why have I posted this in the forum well its another taboo subject and another mind screw which is society led ie he likes his butt played with he must be gay and again its a wrong assumption.
I’ve done this to him twice now with the same head popping off result kinda makes me feel a little dom over him as he gets all squimish about it and i’ve ordered something from an on line sex toy store too which I have planned to use on him next weekend when I’ve planned another girls night in which I may tell you about if this post is ok here.
Sindy will think I’m mad lol
Em (RG Wife)
It's funny that we can dress as women and get affronted if we're accused of being gay. How does wearing womens clothes make us gay? Un yet put anything to do with bums and we think it's gay!
Not all gay men like anal sex and that it is not just a 'gay' pastime. A quick look around the internet will show you it's something enjoyed by women too. In fact lots of gay men also like oral sex but I've never heard about a straight man objecting to that on the basis it was 'gay'.
It's just societies condition work on us, people who should know better!
Katie
Can admit it feels strangely head popping and one feels weird about it later on after the experience.
It does make you feel submissive but I've never done similar as Davina would love if my wife did similar but alas not on her agenda.
Why is our G spot up there !!!
Davina
So back to this rude post about playing around with him back there and his head popping off.
I ordered a male pleasure toy from lovehoney and didnt tell him
it arrived i worked out how to use it (as if I dont know how they work)
Well last night we had a girls night in and got intimate which I know freaks many out but I like it and my fingers wandered back there with some lube to his pleasure and then from under the pillow I got the toy and replaced my finger with it and he was like what the hell is that to which I told him to shut up feeling a little dominant as he really is a little embarrassed being touched back there and now with a sex toy there he was really squeemish and then I pressed the button and buzzzzzz lol omg he was buzzing himself dressed as a woman having his G spot vibrated Ive never seen him like that before so many oh my gods were said ll spare what else I was doing to him at the same time but he had an intense orgasm.
After he was sheepish about what wed just done so I said we wont do it again if you feel weird about it but he said no that orgasm was different so powerful and repeated so he wants it again just feels weird about it and he still feels its a bit gay we cant win lol.
I might be boring mom lady here, but I'm not an entire prude, lol. I don't mind discussing anything here to be honest.
My thoughts on the gay thing? Anything two consenting people do together is whatever they want it to be - so if your husband wants it to be a 'gay' moment, then it is. Given he has shown he feels the opposite, then he's just having fun with his wife. What he's wearing or where things are inserted (why does that word still make me giggle? lol) are irrevelant. However, I guess if he's really disturbed about it all then he'll have to give up having his head pop off.
Funny how men feel about these things. Considering men are the kinky sex, and given how many strange fetishes men come up with, suddenly they're all shy and prudish if someone so much as touches their backside. But hey, that gimp mask, tutu and diaper he feels like wearing is totally fine!
Men. Are. Weird. :-D
ice to hear from you again Emma lol what a subject to return on lol made me laugh.
You've made the biggest strides in here in a rapid timescale compared to my wifes acceptance of my crossdressing and surpassed what we've got and got a lil kinky with it lol
I will let the other women in here decide if this is something we want to discuss but will give my 10p worth on it.
Sex dressed I am very jelous as this is something I'd like to do which I know my wife won't do as she cant get past the "But you look like a woman I'm no lesbian thing"
If she dressed as a man it wouldnt bother me if she wanted sex dressed that way as to me shes still my wife not a man.. OMG connotations of she looks like a man if dressed like a man so you must be gay.. nonsense!
Onto playing back there I can confirm it does feel nice to be touched there and I can confirm I feel weird about liking it and Katie yep a falic object may be used but thats because it fits but i'd not link that to the feeling of being Gay or of the act being gay
I've read the links on the post and it outlines this in a way to say dont be stupid its not gay, your g spot is "up there" you cant help liking it and touching it yourself or using a toy on yourself or your wife or GF doing it in no way makes you gay! but we still feel weird about it.
I can also confirm yes it does make mu head pop off and then I feel so weird afterwards and the old Alpha maleness must be something to do with it.
As a woman touching him back down there seeing him get off on it and also acting a little submissive do you feel dom?
But to me its not gay as its not with a man¦
Well Em you're a bit of dark horse. From shy and retiring to dominatrix in a matter of months! I bet you're other half is blown away lol.
I think that the insertion of anything into any human orifice is generally considered to be submissive. The alpha male holds the power as he is the one who generally inserts. I think that this is why a 'straight' male may consider and penetration to be a 'gay' act. Especially if the penetration is from a phallic object.
It's the old social conditioning again that makes it a taboo subject.
Katie