I've chatted to a few t girls over the last week on TV Chix with non accepting and semi accepting wives so hoping a few more will sign up and we get some chatter going and some new threads or recall old threads and continue explaining and debating the pros and cons of crossdressing.

It's a fascinating subject and also I'll admit a bit of a weird phenomenon but also harmless.. but As Katie's said and I've added as a new thread " The more you understand the easier it becomes"

Davina

I see a few have joined but too shy to add comments? or still reading the hundreds of posts on here?

Maybe having more accepting there's less to discuss but good to share what level of acceptance as even some accepting still want to push further or maybe take a step back.

Be nice to get some curious about acceptance I miss giving advice to new wives discovering.

Emma (Wife)

The more the merrier

Hoping a few I've chatted to on line recently join and add to our little community of couples ok with dressing

That's cool.. All about communication and balance.. Just like me being a Jedi.. Balance the light and the dark.. Blond or Brunette..

I think it has to be what ever works for you as a couple. You need to talk about what you find acceptable and both try and work out what you want or need. I feel it has to be a two way street for it work. I would never want to dress to much and for Rachel to take over. We have are time together as husband and wife but then we have time together as girlfriends

Rachel just prefers the feel of knickers and not underpants and if what she prefers then I’m good with it - Rachel dresses when she can son being home permitted and we try and practice with the make up when we can

There's the level change as I'm at my level I dress fully with makeup and wig or not at all .. I don't want to wear just knickers.. For your husbands they're wearing knickers and that's fine and you're OK with that .. Not something I'd do and don't think Esme would be OK with that. I have my male side and he wears boxer shorts and I have my fem side and when she's about its matching lingerie or an all in one body.. I don't mix the two.

Rachel wears them full time now

So in answer to the first post can anyone actually define what anyone does to get a level of acceptance? I think my level changes daily and probably hourly if I am completely honest. I think your acceptance is within yourself and probably cannot be defined by what your husband or partner says is does.

I was reading Davina’s blog earlier as it has been mentioned before and came across the levels of acceptance which was very interesting.

1. Shock and Denial - Shock most definitely. Denial not then but sometimes now and I am 10 months down the line. Still shocked? Maybe still can’t really put the Male and female together in my head sometimes.

2. Anger, Frustration and Depression- Still angry that I was lied to for so long and not sure I will ever not be angry but it is not the raging anger I had back in January. Frustration not so much- yet! Depression- yes think I get waves of it.

3. Decisions- I made the decision right back at the beginning that I was not going to divorce him just because he wears a dress. I also made the decision that I did not want to be excluded from that part of his life.

4. Experiment, Acceptance and Integration - Experiment not for me but that is a personal thing. Acceptance- Think I am still working on that. I think there are definite degrees of this. He has put his clothes in the wardrobe, dressed at home and we have been to a small club and out shopping. Now wears knickers everyday after asking if it was ok. So does that then also form integration?

I think there is a couple of points missing like trust and forgiveness.

Do I trust him? No

Do I forgive him for deceiving me for years? Not yet

So I am still on my journey of acceptance and some days I find it extremely difficult, upsetting and lonely and all because I love my husband.

Rachel never stops browsing the internet and quite licks Hell Bunny

We've not been lingerie shopping for a long time. I like the lacy boy short French knicker type.

Sorry for jumping the gun and being too protective - we got quite a few M&S vouchers for wedding gifts and had a lovely time purchasing some new Lacey and satiny knickers- I like big comfort knickers and Rachel went for much smaller ones 🤣

Rachel hasn’t managed to dress this weekend with her having a bad cold and son was bringing granddaughter over early in the morning only they didn’t turn up until about 1pm

My apologies Davina I totally misread what you said/meant - Rachel explained it too me and yes your right we do - we look at each other with ‘if only they knew’ looks and smile to each other😁

And she did and there were pictures 😊

I would never treat Rachel’s secret as a joke and her happiness is paramount to me and our relationship

To me it’s no one else’s business

Hard for those who don't feel they can tell their wives or GFs who who's wives and GFs don't understand and won't accept it.

Weird isn't it how this thing we do has that positive effect on us. Something so simple yet so frowned upon.