It was an interesting observation made by Sindy that crossdressers seem to want to have a 'girls night out' where they can talk about make up and clothes whereas in reality women don't talk about those things.
I've always had the impression, and correct me if I'm wrong, that fashion and make up is important to many teenage girls. They spend their time perfecting their make up and style by experimenting and chatting with friends. All that changes when added responsibilities come along.
Crossdressers on the other hand are new to all this make up and fashion. Not in the sense that we haven't been dressing for year but in respect to the fact that we've had little time in comparison to perfect our make up and style (an hour or so grabbed here and there). We want to have that chat in the same way as teenage girls - get everything right.
We know that crossdressing allows us to escape the realities of everyday life so is it any wonder that we want to talk about frivolous and superfluous things. The same as women used to do before they and all their responsibilities.
Katie
I cant and never speak for someone who identifies as transsexual (also know some hate being labelled transexual, hate the term Real Girl, Genetic Girl, Cis girl etc the whole labels things can be taken out of context but it makes it easier to identify a place on the perceived trans or otherwise spectrum)
I agree they are just ordinary women and will enjoy doing ordinary women things but lots are very feminine in appearance and the way they dress.
We Crossdressers make no excuses for preferring all the superficial feminine stuff and I cant see how this is likely to insult a transsexual more than being compared to real women.
From experience Ive chatted to lots of girls who have gone through the operation some call what we do playing at being Trans and thats fair enough compared to what they have to go through and some have no real opinion of us mere crossdressers.
As Ive pointed out in here and the blog we are incredibly misunderstood as Crossdressers, even more so as occasional crossdressers in the Trans world.
We do play at being Trans and happy to return to male us and again I dont apologise for this, were men who play at dressing and presenting as women.. no harm done, have the escapism and release and fun of the transformation and feeling different, relaxed, some turned on then return to male us.
The best of both worlds in what we enjoy doing, not as serious as other parts of the Trans spectrum which is why were just Crossdressers no real serious reason other than it can help us de-stress and unwind.
Wives don't understand crossdressing, its not like its taught in school and read an agony aunt column "My husband is a crossdresser and 9 out of 10 times its painted in a bad light by the agony aunt" .. Written to one myself and the response was published in a magazine and the advice was awful Transphobic infact.
We do understand ourselves once we get our heads around why we do it to what extent we do it in the pie chart of reasons we reach a stage where the answer is because we do
Im not confused as to why I dress as I overuled confusion a long time ago when asking why do men crossdress and finding so many varied answers that there is no answer which covers us all so no point in worrying about it.. Im a crossdresser its something I do and enjoy doing and not going to stop doing any time soon.
Thinking I really can't be bothered to Emmas suggestion Sindy get dolled up makes me think and wonder Why not? not even for your husband?
I would think as a man that most women would enjoy getting glammed up and feeling nice even relaxed when dressed nice and by nice I mean a nice dress, heels, makeup looking in the mirror and thinking wow?
YES now, after all these years with my wife, it's a HUGE deal - I would love to see her in a dress, makeup and heels far more often than special occasions like weddings. Id love to see her in a dress and heels etc most days for work and definitely when we go out (those rare occasions when we get baby sitters).
Its a HUGE deal for men and as ive said when this stops happening and wives suddenly make less effort with makeup, dresses and heels etc its a kick in the balls and a change in the relationship which isnt communicated it just seems to happen.... these same women can be found to bitch about the woman the same age who is still making the effort and wearing dresses and heels etc Who does she think she is? as happened a few weeks ago when I dropped my little one off at school and one teacher in heels and a dress and makeup got out of her car and walked into school the bitchyness of the mums outside the school almost led me to say "take a look in the mirror I think she looks great"
There are always plenty of young women in heels I can stare at if I need a fix even in the super market and indeed most of us do oggle a women whos made an effort or looks nice or is wearing something we appreciate but there is an art to this ie we dont want to look like stalkers or perverts, we dont want to upset our wives or girlfriends obviously oggling another woman so its a stolen glance and wow she looks great in our heads.. but wed sooner be appreciating our wives and gfs dressed like the woman weve just oggled in the supermarket or at the pub.
If you were my wife would you be happy to catch me looking at some younger model in black tights and heels Sindy? Or would you be upset by this? I would think most women would be upset.
And yes there's always Davina! When I find time to dress I give myself a good ogle substitution dressing wearing things we wish our wives would wear more often or at all.
What Emma has done sees her happy and her husband happy she works she has a family life Ive seen her and chatted to her on cam she looks fab.
Whats wrong with occasionally dressing nice making an effort for your husband what a surprise that may be to brighten his day unexpectedly?
I bet most of us Crossdressers would love to sit and chat about make up and clothes and play dress up but that shouldnt make a woman feel jealousy towards the male life and the restrictions on feelings and how we should behave as women get more and more liberated in what they can do and achieve oh and what they can wear and how they can present.
Women seem to enjoy the visual side of things too and it quite disgusts me that women may flock to see a stripper whooping and hollering. You couldnt pay me to go into some event with a load of men to see a female stripper.
Getting older doesnt need to lower anyones attractiveness. Makeup makes this even easier for women.
Correct most men don't have a desire to get into all these 'feminine trappings' and crossdress but 99% of men if you asked them would want their wives and girlfriends to dress up for them and it does come as a shock to men when wives stop, moan about tights, wont wear stockings even for fun and complain about wearing high heels.
I dont think im any different from any other man crossdresser or not in struggling to get my head around why women stop dressing nice (how we perceive nice) and how they settle for (we have to find a name for this phenomenon) and how they are bitchy towards women who continue to make an effort sometimes refering to them as mutton dressed as lamb.
To sum up we do know what were doing, we dont take ourselves too serious, it does bug us sooooo much this stage some women reach which makes Sindy play the violin lol
Davina