By: Sindy
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Busy times...
It's seriously fascinating that our clothing can have this affect on men. Clothing that I don't just take for granted but often loathe. I literally came home with the kids this afternoon, after a usual day of chores and school and cooking and chores and...you get the drift...and the FIRST thing I did was rip off my damn bra. God that thing annoys me. It's like being bound and gagged at the chest all day! I can't even imagine doing what I do all day in stockings and heels and a skirt. I'd probably come home and go completely nude much to my kids horror LOL!
Isn't it weird, but I had a sudden thought that maybe the female desire to come home and get comfy in a baggy tracksuit or a huge tee shirt is similar to your need to come home and get 'comfy' in the frilly stuff? We both want to wear the items that everyone else would prefer we didnt wear. Mind you, women don't usually get a rush from the track suit (at least, I don't lol) but maybe this is a classic case of wanting what the other team has, with male hormones thrown in?
If women had more testosterone, maybe men's clothes would turn us on??
Oh, this is too confusing. I think men and women are more different than we like to admit and crossdressing happens to men because you're endorphin chasers and driven by that smaller 'brain' of yours that seems to do a large portion of the decision making lol. The only thing my smaller 'brain' ever does is cause PMS and a desperate need for cholocate two days of the month. Does that count?? :-D
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Busy times...
Davina
Your line manager has obviously noticed the pressure that you are under and I guess for everyones sake you should look at reducing the stress. It' sounds as if others are freewheeling whilst you're taking up the slack.
I think that you need to admit to yourself that you can't do it all before you can think of letting go of some of the responsibility.
If you don't then you could end up burning yourself out and then what happens to all the people relying on you? Every company should have in place a plan to replace a key worker so there should be people in the business who can step up to the plate and share the load. It's not a sign of weakness to ask for help it's a sensible and rational request. Your line manager seems like the guy to talk to has he understands the situation.
I know it's hard to delegate sometimes as you feel nobody can quite do it as well as you but you'll often be surprised by what people can actually do when asked. Sometimes fresh eyes on a problem can help solve it in a different way and wouldn't you find it rewarding to share your experience and mentor somebody?
The fact that you've taken time out your busy life to run this blog show you have a caring and thoughtful side to your nature. It's not all ALPHA male!
Anyway back to important stuff ;-)
The release of endorphins does reduce stress. There are loads of ways to boost their release from dark chocolate to laughing and exercise. Some of it is a chemical release, some of it is physical and some of it sensory.
I believe that crossdressing is both a physical and sensory stimuli in releasing endorphins.
It was interesting to read how you felt it was pleasurable to run your hands up and down your stockinged legs. Both a physical and sensory stimuli.
I was hanging out the washing this morning and was thinking about the difference in the touch and feel of women's clothing to mens. I guess that women take this all for granted because it's the way it's been for most of their lives and they get to choose this material. Men don't and so it will always hold an added pleasure.
Generally most men like the feel of women's lingerie and stocking when it's being worn by a woman. Some men like the feel when it's off a woman. And some men like the feel of it when they're wearing it! It's just different degrees of getting that pleasure!
The whole transformation process to being a scruffy bearded man to being dressed as an immaculate 'woman' is exciting. When I go for it I know that my heart beats in my chest at the excitement to such a degree that I can rush the process. This is going to be pumping those good old endorphins a round my body at a fair old pace so it is any wonder that we find it enjoyable and relaxing. Who wouldn't want those happy feelings?
Anyway food for thought.