I'll post the questions which were asked on the interview later and maybe we can all give our own answers.. by copying the questions and adding our answers. I find answering these questions quite theraputic.
This Tgirl really gets into Character "voice and all" but another married man and father explains Crossdressing well and a lot of what she says will ring true with a lot of us and of course as usual some things wont... Have a watch and then give your own answers....
A man of little words I’ve allowed him my tablet to type his answers
When did it begin?
When I was about 10 similar to Davina sexy lingerie adverts on tv etc my mums lingerie and blush with Em reading this masterbating too
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
Never
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
I used to now sometimes she tells me to crossdress if im visibly stressed she can tell and I love her very much for this
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
No I’m me crossdressed just look different and ok I feel different but I dont become a woman lol
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
No
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
Stress relief and spending time with Em crossdressed knowing she had a lot od soul searching to do to accept this part of me xxxx
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
The fear of your wife may leave you just because you crossdress
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
Relaxed and very sexy hard to explain as other tgirls have said
Do you shave your body?
All over yes including my legs
Are you happier as a man or woman?
As a man crossdressing is my once or twice per month escape and relaxation
Is there a sexual part to it?
Ye its a turn on always has been and lol with Em reading this sex dressed with her is pretty mind blowing shes frowning at me oops
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
Yes some t girls look amazing as made up as women. Some have hot legs and figuers and have mastered makeup better than a lot of women so yes I can find a t girl attractive.
No Emma I wouldnt have sex with a tgirl and yes im sure attration to an image im looking at doesnt mean I want to explore her “his” body Geez why do women think attraction means we want sex?
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
I find it weird a little men fancying me as a woman but it is flattering that they may see a photo of me dressed and find me attractive but no longer on tv chix so this doesnt happen any more
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
Too right being discovered feet up fully dressed watching loose women drinking tea lol omg worst find out ever I thought I was doomed but info on the internet and Davinas blog helped me no end im a very lucky man
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
No
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
They dont get it. They get some trans not us we’re perverts and laughing stock to them
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
Yes
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
Secret only Em knows
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
Dont purge, be honest with yourself and your wife if you can tell do it
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
Dont like it
What do you love most about Crossdressing?
How I look and feel
Top of my head stuff and ,... go
When did it begin?
When I was about 6 I think loving the feel of my mothers silky slips and remember putting on a batman t shirt and shorts with black tights being batman and liking the feel on my skin.
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
Never but have always loved women especially women in tights, dresses and high heels who make an effort with makeup, their hair and how they look.
I like to try to emulate that occasionally when the urge takes me but i’ve never wanted to be a woman at all.
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
I have done and have mentally beaten myself up about it. Early years I didnt associate wearing tights etc as crossdressing, I liked the feel but I was batman or superman men in tights and a cape. As I got older and found fashion catalogues looking at women in dresses and lingerie I started crossdressing in lingerie of my mothers (sounds cringe but we all did it) .. I hid it but didnt think it was strange and didnt struggle with it as far as I knew no one else did this I was dressing up it felt nice then my first errection whilst crossdressed at 10? 11? thought there was something wrong with me and I discovered touching it felt nice and it did go back down. It became a ritual dress up and get myself off as a young teenager remembering the day I cum for the first time when crossdresssed omg what they hell was that and for the first time guilt came over me which happened for years .. crossdress masterbate cum feel guilty.
The struggle came later in life with stress of work etc, married and crossdressing here I was married man important job wearing my wifes lingerie etc why was I doing what I did as a kid again after it stopping for a few years.
Then telling Esme I dressed and the guilt of putting her through it then my blog getting my thoughts and feelings into a blog “why do men crossdress” finding others asking the question.. I still struggle with it from time to time.
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
No i’m still me trying to look like a woman feeling more relaxed, chilled out, “sexy” and escaped from my macho male self for a bit detached from reality behind closed doors and curtains but I dont become a woman I become a crossdresser.
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
No I enjoy being a man, crossdressing is as much a hobby and an urge as anything.
The longest I’ve dressed is 7 or 8 hours I would maybe like to try a whole day or maybe a weekend dressed but I find if I dress 2 days in a row for a few hours I’m had my fill and the urge subsides.
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
It helps me de-stress, relax, I feel sexy as “Davina” I dont feel sexy as a man, its hard to explain how nice it feels to escape and dress as a woman and that ever sounds strange to me typing it its fun.
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
The fact my wife didnt sign up for this that im putting her through me dressed as a woman and the emotional baggage that comes with it which she’ll say she’s over and to stop beating myself up about it or stop doing it.
Societys perception that we dress so we’re weird or perverts. In the grand scheme of men i’m middle of the road normal compared to friends and collegues and family and strong willed, intelligent and compassionte etc etc all the good things I should be yet I crossdress “So what”
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
Its hard to explain but the thought of dressing is and has always been exciting an opportunity to dress coming up to dress fully and I get excited so imagine how I feel about an opportunity to go out dressed ..
Putting the clothing on is electric (women wont get this as they can wear what they like and will find it strange but slipping on sexy lingerie and stockings a dress and slipping into high heels putting on makeup and transforming yourself with a wig finally is electric, exciting and fun and feels great the clothing against your skin.
Do you shave your body?
Above stocking tops all upper body and face and private areas I dont shave my legs im blonde and not really hairy so the right denier stockings or tights and i’m ok .. maybe one day I’ll shave my legs lol Esme will say no chance.
Are you happier as a man or woman?
As a man my life is as a man my wife and kids are with me as a man and thats my happiness dressing as a woman is relaxing and makes me happy too but thats just crossdressing it’s not who I am. “Davina” is just a stage name used for the purpose of a reference to me crossdressed shes not a person or alter ego .. happy as a man like that I can escape into dressing as a woman from time to time.
Is there a sexual part to it?
Yes It’s always been a turn on since i was young and I’d be telling a lie if I said it doesn’t turn me on dressing as a woman any more. Today looking in the lingerie section hoping to find something and at dresses I was getting aroused. When I dress and transform I get very aroused, I cant help touching myself sometimes when im dressed although it usually subsides after a while and I just enjoy the relaxation of being dressed but I may get up and walk and feel the fabric against myself and become aroused again or see myself in the mirror and I sometimes get myself off before I change back cringe admission.
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
Yes as there are some stunning t girls some look better than a lot of women. You can look at a photo of a woman and say woman shes very atracttive nice legs nice eyes love the makeup and what shes wearing then someone points out shes a he.. ok but attractive.. I find women attractive I love a certain fem image..
it doesnt mean I jump into bed with a woman as I find her attractive and doesnt mean I jump in bed with a t girl either. It has no bearing on sexuality and all bearing on the image you're seeing.
I find myself pretty attractive sometimes as “Davina” “you’re so vane...”
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
Flattering.
I got into the top babes chart on tv chix pointed out by others saying congratulations otheriwse id have never known. Very flattering to have got in the top 20 on tv chix among thousands of t girls.
I chat in tv chix and not a time goes by when some “admirer” doesnt private message me to say wow you look nice and I take it as a compliment.
I once got offered £500 to meet that was flattering and tempting lol what would Esme have said if id said this guy wants dinner with me dressed and he's willing to pay £500... I think he wanted more than dinner lol so it was declined.
Some t girls use chat sites where they can earn money we've got a few on here with experience in this safe behind a screen lol Two that I know of supervised by their wives as they chat on cam and watch the money come in.
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
Yes it’s allowed me to network with other t girls, chat to other wives and gfs and to set up my blog and forum giving and receiving advice .. we are not alone
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
No but I have used snap chat filters on a few
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
Getting better more accepting of TS and TV less knowledgeable of CD’s which remains a joke among men about crossdressing on weekends and remains social stigma that crossdressers are perverts (look above I masterbate lol) I think in the Trans spectrum we’re outcast slightly
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
Yes and no.
Yes as it could make things difficult for friends and family especially Esme and the kids can you imageine the kids friends parents finding out then all of a sudden kids stop coming over thinking im some sort of pervert and No as if it got out im big enough to joke it off and intelligent enough to try to explain it away.
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
Open to my wife secret to the rest of the world apart from the intelligence community who have no doubt tapped into my web cam and seen me having a royal laugh at my expense.
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
Never purge.
Dont feel guilty youre doing nothing wrong.
If you want to tell others be careful research it .. ask questions on my forum lol
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
Personally I dont like it im not a transvestite to my definition im a tgirl a crossdresser
What do you love most about Crossdressing?
How it makes me feel when im down and stressed and how it lifts my spirits and helps me to chillax, how I can sometimes look and how it feels to be crossdressed all combine into what I like most about it.
Davina
When did it begin?
Officially when I was about 12 but I'd swapped clothes with my sister when I was even younger.
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
I want to be free to express my femininity when I feel in the mood. If that means that I am classed as a woman when I wear certain clothes then yes at times I want to be a woman. There are also times when I want to feel masculine and I enjoy the ability to switch between the two.
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
I used to but I feel more at peace with my desire to crossdress.
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
If that is how I am viewed externally then yes. but internally I don't feel any different.
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
No.
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
It helps me to create a balance in my life. I have a desire to feel feminine and crossdressing allows me to fulfil this desire.
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
The social stigma attached to crossdressing prevents me from expressing myself to the wider world. I have to hold back on some of my true self both to the outside world and my wife.
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
I feel feminine
Do you shave your body?
Mostly and other places are kept trimmed and neat.
Are you happier as a man or woman?
I wouldn't say I'm happier as either because I don't have the freedom to be either when I want to.
Is there a sexual part to it?
It used to be sexual but now it is more to do with the feelings it engenders.
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
I am attracted by femininity. If a t girl is feminine then I may find her attractive. The same goes for women. I am attracted to feminine women who take care in their appearance. I am gynesexual.
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
Praise is always nice in what ever form it is given.
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
It has helped me to come to terms with my crossdressing.
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
No
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
I think that there is an inbuilt prejudice against things people do not understand or that are alien to them. Crossdressing falls into this category and unless people are forced to find out they will continue with this prejudice. People are becoming more tolerant but we are still a long way away from acceptance.
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
Yes because of the social / economic impact it may have on my family. As I said before people do not understand and have little appetite to change their views unless forced to do so. Nobody goes out their way to understand what crossdressing is about unless they are faced with the issue itself.
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
Secret. Only my wife knows.
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
Learn to understand your motivations and what crossdressing means to you. Talk to others who understand and then make your own decisions.
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
Transvestie is OK but I find 'Tranny' is used as an insult by people who do not understand.
What do you love most about Crossdressing?
Being able to express part of my personality.
Katie x
When did it begin?
i was around 9 years old and my sister dressed me up and called my mum to come and see me, I hid under the bed, my sister was older and bullied me, this only happened once and after that I started wearing my mums tights and gradually started to wear other things like lingerie and dresses.
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
no, never ever wanted to be a woman.
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
yes, I think like a lot of Crossdressers I have had guilty feelings and thought how stupid it is, but it dI’d not stop me for long.
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
no, I know I am still and feel a man.
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
no, I love to crossdres, but it would lose the excitement if it was full time.
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
i feel relaxed and enjoy the feeling and look of being in a shortish dress and seeing my nylon clad legs.
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
having to hide it and being able to crossdress when I want.
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
great, I love the look and feel.
Do you shave your body?
never shaved, but I would like to at least shave my legs once asi am told tights and stockings feel much better.
Are you happier as a man or woman?
a man
Is there a sexual part to it?
no
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
yes, but only if they are dressed and very convincing
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
i have always thought they must be blind, but it nice if not surprising
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
yes, especially for shopping and chatting with other Crossdressers
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
never
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
not good from when I hear people talking, but maybe they are being like this in a crowd, but don’t really mind
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
yes, definitel, although I would like to tell my wife, but only her.
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
secret, nobody has ever seen me dressed in the flesh
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
enjoy it, it feels fantastic
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
i hate the word, don’t know why, but much prefer being called a crossdresser.
What do you love most about Crossdressing?
the feeling of dressing up and the look it creates, I can’t help but love seeing my legs in opaque tights and a short dress
When did it begin?
I was 3 or 4 i found a pair of my mums knickers, then moved onto tights.
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
Not really no, i love the female form whatever size or shape,
i admire women a lot and empathise with all the crap they have to put up with.
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
I used to, i have suppressed it for so may years to keep it from friends and family
but since i came out to my wife it would not bother me if they all knew, they would have to deal with it.
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
I think i do yes, i feel different on the inside as well as on the outside, i`m trying to learn how to walk and stand like a woman and practice whenever i can (we have mirrors at work on the walkways so you can see around the corners, and i watch myself walking as a woman when no one is looking :) )
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
As i`m married no, i don`t think my wife would accept that, but if i was on my own i don`t think it would be 24/7 but i would go to work as a man during the day and then dress in the evenings and weekends as a woman.
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
It simply makes me a more relaxed, tolerant and all round more pleasant person.
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
My emotions are all over the place! Having to tell your wife and then try and help her to understand how it makes you feel and what it means to you. (Sometimes crying yourself to sleep because it hurts so much that you want to be accepted)
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
In a word, INCREDIBLE!, it makes me feel ME,
Do you shave your body?
Yes i have started shaving my legs, chest and arms, luckily i`m not vary hairy at all so those areas are not noticeable, i have thought about waxing for my `bits` but a `Back, sack and crack!!! ouch!! (Has anyone had it done? and if so, on a scale of 1-10 how bad is it?
Are you happier as a man or woman?
I`m comfortable being both, i like wearing a suit (when i can) and looking smart and dapper as a man but equally i`m just as happy wearing a nice summer dress, stockings and makeup. its the best of both worlds.
Is there a sexual part to it?
Oh yes... WHAT!.. you want details? I have a very high sex drive!! that`s all i`ll say.
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
Yes, there are some stunning Tgirls out there, but it's the female image not the man behind it.
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
Wonderful, no one has ever given me compliments as a man, but they do as Catriona and that gives me confidence and a feel good factor.
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
I just wish the internet had been around in the 80`s it`s shown me i`m not alone and with the help of other xdressers i`m starting to learn my particular position in the trans spectrum.
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
I have, only to put makeup on as i`m not very good at it and i did it to see what look suited me (I`v used Youcam makeup)
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
Things are getting better, i think it`s more a case of not understanding and ignorance, but i see it will be accepted just as they have accepted rhe gay community.
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
A little, but i think i could deal with it, and if someone decided to get physical, i could call upon my karate training (Not sure if i could execute a roundhouse kick in a pair 6" heels tho)
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
I have 1 stocking leg sticking out the closet i would say.
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
Be yourself, don`t let anyone or anything hold you back, i feel as though iv`e wasted a lot of years, but saying that things are different know, the more Gurls come out the more it will be accepted.
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
It used to make me cringe, but not so much now, even when its shortened to `Tranny`! it makes me smile, "HEY GIRL, YOU EVER KISSED A TRANNY BEFORE?"
What do you love most about Crossdressing?
Apart from it really makes me feel good, Because i`m only 5`4" i always have problems with jeans and trousers always being too long!! But i don`t need to worry about that when i put on a dress. :)
Happy days!
Lots of Love,
Catriona xx
Here you go Davina first one to respond. Hopefully you will get a load more!
When did it begin?
I was 6 or 7 and would dress in my mother’s stockings, dress and heels(which were much too big)
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
Yes and still do
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
Not really now that I am out to Wife and family
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
Try to, but just use my normal voice and don’t try to talk like a sissy, so when out and dressed that is my biggest give away, oh yes and I am 6ft 4” tall without heels.
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
Yes, but not able to at the moment as wife will not support it
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
Stress free(if the wife does not question it), calmer nicer person I think
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
Wife does not like to see it too often, still hiding from neighbour.
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
Love all of it, but would prefer my own hair to a wig(work in progress)
Do you shave your body?
Yes, all over just a landing strip down below. Have had full body Laser hair removal but need somemore to finish it off and the need to shave. Also need facial electrolysis as the bread is grey
Are you happier as a man or woman?
I think as a woman but the man has his moments
Is there a sexual part to it?
Only when I was much younger
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
Yes there are some that are really stunning
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
I suppose it is nice but I don’t do compliments well in either mode
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
Yes
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
Never
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
It is getting better, most people don’t care or ignore it, it is only those closest to you that have the biggest struggle
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
No I am out to family and some friends. Some at work have worked it out but no one comments about my wearing a bra and female earrings
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
Open
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
Don’t hide it be open as soon as possible and if someone does not like it they are not for you
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
I don’t have a problem with it, it is an ancient word, we have been around a very long time Dressing as the opposite sex.
What do you love most about Crossdressing:
The freedom to express my inner self, the wonderful choices that the female wardrobe presents, the transformation from drab male to a feminine woman.
Hopefully that we help explain my place on the spectrum, currently sat in the cab of my 44 ton artic waiting for a load. Best touch up my lipstick. Yes I wear Lipstick and mascara and underdressed in drab working mode, so not a common Crossdresser.
One time filling the car up with petrol at Tesco (wearing woman’s jeans and 2” heeled suede booties) a man said to me “with your height you don’t need the Cuban heels” I said they go with the rest of me. Don’t think he thought I was a Crossdresser!
Love to all Jean
The Questions - Whats your answers?
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When did it begin?
Have you ever wanted to be a woman?
Do you struggle with the desire to Crossdress?
Do you become a woman when Crossdressed?
Would you live full time Crossdressed?
What are the Positive aspects of your Crossdressing?
What are the negative aspects of your Crossdressing?
How do you feel in stockings / tights, high heels, dresses, lingerie, makeup, wig etc?
Do you shave your body?
Are you happier as a man or woman?
Is there a sexual part to it?
Do you find other Tgirls attractive?
How does it feel to have your female image admired by others?
Has the internet helped with your crossdressing?
Do you photoshop any of your photos?
What do you think of the public reaction to Crossdressing?
Are you afraid people may find out you crossdress?
Are you a secret or open Crossdresser?
What advice do you have for a new Tgirl?
What do you feel about the word Transvestite?
What do you love most about Crossdressing?