I saw this posted reply on another site thread and wondered how you felt:

'For the longest time I believed that my SO had a male self and a female self that alternated. Eventually I saw that my SO was always my same SO, no matter how dressed. I stopped trying to define it as male or female, mostly because I don't generally see much difference between men and women except for what they can do with their physical bodies (men generally have more muscle mass, women can lactate, etc).

By this I mean that men and women work the same jobs, enjoy the same pastimes (some men cook, some women enjoy football), have the same emotions (they both feel joy and sadness), share the same household and outdoor chores, take care of their same kids, etc. Whether my SO was dressed or not, we talked about the same things, ate the same food, did the same things together when hanging out, listened to the same music, watched the same movies, had our same opinions about things. Does this make sense? I honestly don't see a gender gap (except for the physical differences between males and females), and so I stopped stressing about whether my SO was male or female. He is simply my SO who enjoys presenting as a woman occasionally.'

Katie x