By: Sindy

Subject: Secrets

Chatting earlier about wives sharing a crossdressing secret with others, either with her husbands knowledge or not, and Davina mentioned that she would expect her wife to discuss with her first. And I'm sure that most of the time, this is what happens.

BUT, the fact is, once you share a secret you no longer have any control over who knows about it. It's no longer truly a secret. I wonder why men who crossdress and eventually tell their wives don't understand this better? She's under no obligation to keep this information to herself. In fact, she could write a four page article and send it to the national newspaper if she so chooses! The risk of this is likely low in a good marriage, but keeping secrets is also a heavy thing, especially the secrets of others that affect us directly. I often wonder if more wives haven't discussed their husbands proclivity without their husband knowing.

After all, most men didn't tell their wives about this important issue before marriage, so she might just think 'who is he to tell me who I can talk to!'

So, let's say your wife has told a friend or sister or someone. How do feel knowing you've lost control of your secret, and does this make you question whether you should have shared this at all?

Crossdressing needn't be serious or harmful or important, but it sure can complicate a man's life, can't it?