By: Sindy

Subject: So helpful!

Ok, really awesome answers from both Davina and Katie. This is beyond helpful. And no, I can't ask these things easily of my husband. It would be....weird. Yet he would absolutely say everything you said Davina, and a lot of yours too, Katie. But he's definitely a Davina type crossdresser, this much is sure. He doesn't take it seriously at all, not like I do. I mean the need is very real and serious but he's perplexed at my confusion with it all.

Im perplexed why he's not confused about my confusion lol. So yeah, chatting is here is FAR better.

And I admit I had a laugh when I wrote about Davina talking in your head. I have wondered this though. What do wives think you're thinking? I don't know at a group level but I know I get these disturbing ideas that my husband is suddenly contemplating what outfits to wear so as to better attract other men (I know, I know, but it's so hard to lose this fear!). There's also this absurd concern that dressing as a woman has him thinking like one. Not sure how that would work, but I also don't know how much I want to be married to a man who's hoping to find ways to utilize a tampon lol. And don't laugh, I've read of crossdressers who go to these extremes. Not my husband, thank god. I suspect that would be a deal breaker...but yeh, unless we hear the sane thoughts of men such as yourself, our own ideas can really mess with our heads!

And fair enough on the public outings. My husband says he won't either. I couldn't do much if he did, I suppose. I was just curious why and I hadn't thought of validation that it's 'normal'. I hate that word, for the record. But it's what society uses to judge us all by unfortunately. If you do go out, just please don't do the fem behavior you mentioned lol. I can't describe it, but it's actually weirder to see a man act as he thinks women act, putting on a high voice and flapping his hands around. It never looks right and will usually just make him look gay. Women don't 'behave' so to speak, and I think we'd all rather see a guy presenting as a woman and acting as he usually does than trying to be female. If that makes sense? Or, that's what I prefer...other women might have other ideas. I just find the acting fem thing a little creepy.

I have more answers and endless questions. I really can't believe how helpful this is.