By: Katie

Subject: So how do we make a relationship work?

Let's put our heads together a forge a blue print for a workable relationship with a crossdresser.

For wives and partners you are stuck with the fact that the man in your life needs to crossdress. You face to options. You can walk away or you make it work for you.

Assuming you take the second option what would make the relationship work for you?

Maybe some rules to live by? Something we can graduate from tolerance to acceptance to participation. Each rule is a step along that path. Where you decide to stop dictate where you feel comfortable. That maybe at the very start DADT or maybe somewhere else down the line.

They also don't all need to be about the crossdresser. I think it's important that my wife is treated as the most important woman in my life. I pay her compliments, not because I have to but because I want to. I tell her I love her and that I appreciate everything she does for the family. That she's a great mum and wife. I don't leave any outward signs around that I have dressed. I try to be the man in her life, the one she married, her protector and rock. I try to be the best husband and father I can. It may all seem obvious but in a lot of things I've read quite often the wife will take a back seat and grin and bear it. The relationship needs to work for everyone.

Anyway I'm sure that there are many other things that our wives and partners need and who knows I maybe miles off the mark. So ladies give us some feedback.

What you like and what you don't. What you can live with and what you can't.