@emrg17 😊😊 oh, go on!!

(don’t forget podcaster!)

Yes I'm still top of the charts on TV Chix.. Thinking I should change my profile and let the girl at No2 take my place as have chatted to her and she's very nice. As is the girl at No3, hooking they'll both sign to here. My email and message traffic has gone nuts with girls asking how I convinced my wife to accept my cross dressing. I can tell my story and give advice but have said better to come here and hear how tgirls here have handed to tell or not to tell, wife's reactions and success stories. And also ask the wives here for some advice. I hope you'll agree we're white honest here there's no one trying to manipulate anyone to accept I think my aim is to try to explain cross dressing isn't abnormal or a threat to a relationship.. There is a chance its a threat but there's lots of things that can threaten a relationship. And yes I like that we're the Bravengers.. But we wear our knickers properly not on the outside ✊ Davina

I also wear my Superheroine costume bodysuits on the outside !!

Hi @Sophie Summers wonderful to have you and @Savannah Hauk on here along with a few others who champion Crossdressing in book and vlogs and of course the wonderful T Girls on this site and the wives and Girlfriends.

I should come up with some form of blue tick for t girl celebs like you two and @Juliette Noir who liked the site so much she signed up twice @Juliette Noir 😂 and @Catriona Darkwho is also on You tube..

I have a you tube following myself but as male me singing 😎

I Wish i was brave enough to show my face on You Tube and talk about Crossdressing..

Scratch that I am brave enough but my wife (Esme) wouldn't want me to go on You tube advocating crossdressing, as although she's fine with "Davina" she doesn't want anyone else to know, although in my cheeky Jedi type way I drop a few truth bombs about it here and there and those who hear what I say don't if you get my drift, but it plants a seed of open mindedness even if they say "As if you of all people would crossdress... You never know who you know who is a crossdresser and as we've explored here there are answers to why we crossdress but a wide variance why we do this..

You're right crossdressing is very much a personal thing which is hard to explain if someone discovers it especially a wife who as we've read here from wives feel betrayed.. We kinda get that but hard for us to compute after years of privately indulging in crossdressing.

Humour and understanding can come hand in hand with acceptance once the initial "are you gay do you want to be a woman" is out of the way as myself and my wife do see a funny side to crossdressing sometimes and a private joke.

Willingness to listen before judgement is all in the timing at first.

A lot of t girls come here asking how they can tell their wives and what will they need to prep for..

All we can do as a support group is tell our stories and how we found acceptance (those of us lucky to have found acceptance) but we don't know the wives and gfs, so hard to really gauge..

Only the t girl knows her wife / gf and can ascertain a reaction and even then as a wife / gf how do you react to "Darling I'm a crossdresser"...

Luckily we have some wives and girlfriends here to help with that perception and also lend advice and to tell their stories and tell t girls when to put the breaks on.

Getting over the first hurdle is hard then you build up trust and understanding and you run through guilt for being a crossdresser, as I keep pointing at the Kubler Ross curve as that's what most travel through if they want to get to acceptance with wobbles on the way.

Thanks for joining and promote your videos and chatter away as much as you like here

Davina

You are right, of course, that many need to do a risk assessment as it pertains to the people and the public around them. it’s not every persons job to out themselves to everyone around them—as that can make an “authentic” life more difficult for them.

In my case, it’s becoming more and more important to convey the normalcy of dual-gender and gender fluid folx, so that people can be more and more aware of how amazing we are! 💋

I've enjoyed seeing you interviewed on various You Tube channels and great to see Sophies videos in the UK. I think we're all on the right road to cross dressing becoming more accepted and I also think more men cross dress to a degree than we realise. Chatting to a local t girl a few weeks back I joked (as related to a TV show little Britain) 'I'm the only t girl in the village' and she said oh both you're not I know of at least two others. I found out that my friend who was best man at my wedding cross dressed to some degree. We've lost touch but don't think we'll ever have "that" conversation about being cross dressers. Sadly my wife heard that he was a cross dresser from her friend, his ex girlfriend so my wife's had a peer review on cross dressing but I know same friend if she knew I was a cross dresser would be supportive. Strange how some can accept cross dressing but not if its their husband or boyfriend. I'm lucky Esme accepts "Davina" but have never asked her if I'd told her I was a cross dresser when we were dating would she have ran for the hills? What a waste that would have been. Davina

Hi Emma, I hope the book was informative and helpful for you and your partner. It always rewarding to hear of couples coming together and for each of you to look inside for your best selves. Sending love xoxo