Honest answer. I've no idea really but I enjoy it so I do it, even if no one knows. Why I started I've no idea but that doesn't really worry me (I did, so I do). Mens clothes are so boring in comparison. Women have a HUGE choice in my view compared to men in both style and fabric so I buy women's clothes and feel good when I dress in them.I work in what everyone would think as an alpha male role (I've noticed a clue somewhere 😁) so openly admitting I'm a cross dresser is a scary thought. From conversations with my wife years ago I know her thoughts on men who dress like women so that's a none starter.So I dress in secret when I can. There is a definite desire or urge to dress that I suppress until I have the opportunity. On the flip side I'm looking at potential purchase online all the time (indeed I picked up a new dress yesterday on the way back from taking my son to Uni😁) so will get a chance to try that on later this week. Do I look at women in the street and on TV and think that what they are wearing would look good on me.......all the time. I love Carol Kirkwood, great figure, big boobs (you guessed it, I'm a boob man anyway) and never reveals too much cleavage but manages to look fab most of the time. Her style choices are great and I try to have the same approach to how I dress as I hate to see my own false boobs and bra straps Is society accepting? I think its getting there but I'm more accepting because of who I am and what I do. So I dress in women's clothes....no harm no foul.
I still am sporty when hamstrings and knees and shin splints let me.
Still am an Alpha male and find its useful especially in work to the the Alpha.
Wine is the Devil I'm banned and wine plus processcco has given me the worst hangover ever ... wait no that was drinking games when i was 19 .. or maybe it was Kilkenny on a free beer night at the cricket club.. but anyway wine not for me euuchhh.
I should have persued singing as a way to outlet stress and maybe I could have had packed out areas.
Never tried stick ons cant imagine them staying on long judging by the women of the house losing nails glued on and no idea how you'd pull up stockings with talons lol.
Me for example, used to be sporty, beta (going on gamma), married with kids, used to be hard working, used to be well respected wine buyer.Yep. The fear. If I sold out packed arenas or could make pots that cost a fortune then it would easier to have long nails that’s for sure.On the subject of which. Do stick ons work? And how do you pull your stockings up with ruddy great talons? How do they do it?
We need more people like usMe for example sporty, alpha, married with kids, hard working well respected Engineer.By the way here's me as a leggy blonde I do this to escape the stress and strains of male life and find it fun.Oh that's ok then ..But we don't see that do we unfortunately and I'm too chicken to out myself for the cause. Esme would go mad. Davina
Imagine me going on Drag race OK I'd have to drag up my makeup a lot but then I'd outsing them and show off my legs and all that and then they'd find out I'm not a gay drag Queen and boot me off.Sorry if that offends anyone's sexuality but the few episodes I've managed to watch through a grimace they're all Gay..Which is why when one says to ones wife "Darling I'll have you know I do a spot of crossdreasing when the mood partakes me" and she turns around and said "Oh gosh is one gay then?"
I can’t put my finger on it exactly but Drag Race has less than zero appeal to me and I can honestly say I’ve never watched a single second. I guess it must be that instinctively I know it’s contrived for the purposes entertainment (no disrespect intended to the participants who may well have various difficulties facing them in their personal lives). All of which must make me sound like a pompous fuckwit but hey.
Loved the vid and yes there is no question it’s a taboo, seen as an aberration rather than a true fundamental facet of someone’s personality (like being gay or trans). Maybe we need more characters like Izzard and Grayson P to demonstrate that there’s more to it than a fetish or perversion . Even just being seen as an eccentricity would be an improvement on that. But then here we all are, mostly hiding away and being truly expressive only to partners and each other. x
We do need some positive media relations and i will post another of Sophies videos interviewing a feb t girl where they talk about Ru Pauls Drag race, I agree that the Drag race underlines the perception of us being flamboyant and gay.. I think my wife when she plucked up courage to meet me was pleasantly surprised I wasn't a drag queen and was trying my best to look like a woman.
We're getting there and this forum has some fab people on board and a lot of positivity.
I think sadly yes, crossdressing is still a taboo in today's society, no where near what it was 10-15 years ago but still, we aren't seen as "normal" by a lot of people. I feel that we are portrayed as "warped" or "perverted" by the mainstream media which sadly hinders peoples perception of us.
Like they said in the video, different generations and different cultures have very different views, for example I would be more likely to talk to someone from my generation (30 and below), then I would to someone from my parents generation because younger generations seem a lot more open. Sadly it is like a lot of things such as racism (obviously racism is a lot worse) but a lot of people from my parents generation seem to feel like racism was instilled in them from a young age, and this is the same for thibgs like crossdressing, gender equality, religion and pretty much anything under the LGBTQ+ banner. They were taught horrible views by the generations before them.
Now I know many from that generation, many of who are members of this forum, are very open and they are the ones who have instilled all the wonderful, loving and open qualities into younger generations. There are still a lot of people from younger generations who still are taught and have negative views imposed onto them but hopefully with a few more generations of compassion, crossdressing will become something that is normalised, we just need people who will speak for us in the media without fetishising or painting us with a tarred brush.
(I know this is a bit of a ramble but just wanted to put my thoughts as they came to me)
Honest answer. I've no idea really but I enjoy it so I do it, even if no one knows. Why I started I've no idea but that doesn't really worry me (I did, so I do). Mens clothes are so boring in comparison. Women have a HUGE choice in my view compared to men in both style and fabric so I buy women's clothes and feel good when I dress in them. I work in what everyone would think as an alpha male role (I've noticed a clue somewhere 😁) so openly admitting I'm a cross dresser is a scary thought. From conversations with my wife years ago I know her thoughts on men who dress like women so that's a none starter. So I dress in secret when I can. There is a definite desire or urge to dress that I suppress until I have the opportunity. On the flip side I'm looking at potential purchase online all the time (indeed I picked up a new dress yesterday on the way back from taking my son to Uni😁) so will get a chance to try that on later this week. Do I look at women in the street and on TV and think that what they are wearing would look good on me.......all the time. I love Carol Kirkwood, great figure, big boobs (you guessed it, I'm a boob man anyway) and never reveals too much cleavage but manages to look fab most of the time. Her style choices are great and I try to have the same approach to how I dress as I hate to see my own false boobs and bra straps Is society accepting? I think its getting there but I'm more accepting because of who I am and what I do. So I dress in women's clothes....no harm no foul.
Keep supporting Emma and the other ladies on here and we'll get there 😀
Definitely need more regular guys to come out as Crossdressers and help to normalise it.
I think give it another 10 years and like some of the sexualities that have become mainstream accepted crossdressing may.
If only the positives were more mainstream not just the are you gay or a pervert.
Emma (Wife)
I still am sporty when hamstrings and knees and shin splints let me.
Still am an Alpha male and find its useful especially in work to the the Alpha.
Wine is the Devil I'm banned and wine plus processcco has given me the worst hangover ever ... wait no that was drinking games when i was 19 .. or maybe it was Kilkenny on a free beer night at the cricket club.. but anyway wine not for me euuchhh.
I should have persued singing as a way to outlet stress and maybe I could have had packed out areas.
Never tried stick ons cant imagine them staying on long judging by the women of the house losing nails glued on and no idea how you'd pull up stockings with talons lol.
Me for example, used to be sporty, beta (going on gamma), married with kids, used to be hard working, used to be well respected wine buyer. Yep. The fear. If I sold out packed arenas or could make pots that cost a fortune then it would easier to have long nails that’s for sure. On the subject of which. Do stick ons work? And how do you pull your stockings up with ruddy great talons? How do they do it?
We need more people like us Me for example sporty, alpha, married with kids, hard working well respected Engineer. By the way here's me as a leggy blonde I do this to escape the stress and strains of male life and find it fun. Oh that's ok then .. But we don't see that do we unfortunately and I'm too chicken to out myself for the cause. Esme would go mad. Davina
Imagine me going on Drag race OK I'd have to drag up my makeup a lot but then I'd outsing them and show off my legs and all that and then they'd find out I'm not a gay drag Queen and boot me off. Sorry if that offends anyone's sexuality but the few episodes I've managed to watch through a grimace they're all Gay.. Which is why when one says to ones wife "Darling I'll have you know I do a spot of crossdreasing when the mood partakes me" and she turns around and said "Oh gosh is one gay then?"
I can’t put my finger on it exactly but Drag Race has less than zero appeal to me and I can honestly say I’ve never watched a single second. I guess it must be that instinctively I know it’s contrived for the purposes entertainment (no disrespect intended to the participants who may well have various difficulties facing them in their personal lives). All of which must make me sound like a pompous fuckwit but hey.
Loved the vid and yes there is no question it’s a taboo, seen as an aberration rather than a true fundamental facet of someone’s personality (like being gay or trans). Maybe we need more characters like Izzard and Grayson P to demonstrate that there’s more to it than a fetish or perversion . Even just being seen as an eccentricity would be an improvement on that. But then here we all are, mostly hiding away and being truly expressive only to partners and each other. x
Fab post you're right
We do need some positive media relations and i will post another of Sophies videos interviewing a feb t girl where they talk about Ru Pauls Drag race, I agree that the Drag race underlines the perception of us being flamboyant and gay.. I think my wife when she plucked up courage to meet me was pleasantly surprised I wasn't a drag queen and was trying my best to look like a woman.
We're getting there and this forum has some fab people on board and a lot of positivity.
I think sadly yes, crossdressing is still a taboo in today's society, no where near what it was 10-15 years ago but still, we aren't seen as "normal" by a lot of people. I feel that we are portrayed as "warped" or "perverted" by the mainstream media which sadly hinders peoples perception of us.
Like they said in the video, different generations and different cultures have very different views, for example I would be more likely to talk to someone from my generation (30 and below), then I would to someone from my parents generation because younger generations seem a lot more open. Sadly it is like a lot of things such as racism (obviously racism is a lot worse) but a lot of people from my parents generation seem to feel like racism was instilled in them from a young age, and this is the same for thibgs like crossdressing, gender equality, religion and pretty much anything under the LGBTQ+ banner. They were taught horrible views by the generations before them.
Now I know many from that generation, many of who are members of this forum, are very open and they are the ones who have instilled all the wonderful, loving and open qualities into younger generations. There are still a lot of people from younger generations who still are taught and have negative views imposed onto them but hopefully with a few more generations of compassion, crossdressing will become something that is normalised, we just need people who will speak for us in the media without fetishising or painting us with a tarred brush.
(I know this is a bit of a ramble but just wanted to put my thoughts as they came to me)