Thanks Em, I don’t think it’s brave, just being realistic, if someone I know spots me here then what are they doing here but looking for similar answers. Have never used Avatars either. I have told the most important people in my life and they are all family.
I‘m personally not bothered who knows as I’m no longer keeping this a secret and I do go out dressed. It is my wife that wants this kept secret and does not want our neighbors to know, so when going out I leave in male mode and change in the back of my car which has really dark rear windows which gives some privacy to get changed in.
Hi Davina, adding it to a new thread is fine by me.
Can I ask a question? Has a blue box been added to the website? It asks “Where are you on the Trans Spectrum”. I have responded to it but it will not go away any ideas?
Sorry but all my drivel I wrote in the above post went missing don’t know why but I did copy it so here it is, hopefully it will not offend.
I came here after reading the blog and read everything here as well. I am quite a shy quiet person and don’t really like contributing as sometimes my opinion can be quite anti some of the posters who are so intolerant so I prefer to keep quite and not cause conflict.
Yes I did not tell my wife when we met 28 years ago, there was no internet then and it was something we had to keep secret so I purged everything, I was in the army at the time and my only escape was when I went home on Holiday and would dress when my parents were out or away.
I started dressing again after about 15 years into our marriage, I had retired from the army and was an IT Manager and had to travel all over England and Scotland so had time away in hotels where I could dress in private as it was a form of escape from the lack of sexual contact due to my wifes many medical conditions including very low lobido. my wife found knickers that I had started to underdress all the time when I was washing them, I told her they were mine and I was a crossdresser she threw them away and said I had to stop, she did not understand and was unwilling to listen.
There is a lot of talk from women that crossdressers should never marry if they have not told their future wife from the beginnin, that it fine for nowadays with all the information that is readily available, but for us older ones that was not the case when we met and we then believed that are true love would concur our dressing secret and it would never come back. As Davina has said so often women do change and although we still love them they stop dressing as we feel women should and they end up wearing the trousers and we go back to compensating for this by returning to our own dressing.
Forward on 13 years and my wife is now semi supportive and tolerates my dressing in the flat she does not want anyone were we live to know about my other self. My wife has been out with my dressed once to a local support group who were really nice but I did not feel it was my thing as I feel more at home in the real world once a month support group venue. That makes going out more difficult but I do manage as make car has really dark rear windows and being an E class Merc Estate has plenty of room to change in the back.
I am more transgendered than just a crossdresser and would really like to be fully out. I know that when out dressed I do not really pass as I am 6tf 4” tall and weigh 20 stone but don’t really care what others think as it is what I feel and enjoy. Daughter and son including their partners know, wife’s ex and his current wife(no 4) know as well as his daughters from his second marriage and their mother know, one of his daughters owns a beauty salon and has done my nails, lashes and hair, she was the second person to know after my wife and I have been to her salon dressed and all her girls are really supportive too.
I think I have rambled on to much here and not sure if it the right place but hayho, currently watching tv wife is in leggings no makeup and I’m wearing a skirt, holdups, bra, blouse with makeup but no wig (I am growing my hair out so starting to get longer).
It really makes me happy that Esme, Emma and Hanna are so supportive of their husbands dressing but they are a rarity I believe, my wife semi supporting but she would really prefer I was not how I am.
Sorry I've not been here much but count me as a pretty content wife of a Tgirl mainly thanks to help and support on Davinas blog which was my initial find and sanctuary and then this Forum.
I came here worried about my husband being a crossdresser and through the blog and forum came to an acceptance around his dressing which we both find fun.
It even gave me a kick in the backside to make the most of myself as I'd fallen into a boring contented rut as a wife and now I'm far more flamboyant make more of an effort with my makeup and how I dress and even rediscovered high heels.
Not to compete with my crossdresser but it made me feel better about myself and he greatly appreciated this also.
So why was I here? Because I was afraid and needed answers and support
Why am I here now? To give back some support to anyone who needs it here as a wife of a tgirl.
Thanks Em, I don’t think it’s brave, just being realistic, if someone I know spots me here then what are they doing here but looking for similar answers. Have never used Avatars either. I have told the most important people in my life and they are all family.
I‘m personally not bothered who knows as I’m no longer keeping this a secret and I do go out dressed. It is my wife that wants this kept secret and does not want our neighbors to know, so when going out I leave in male mode and change in the back of my car which has really dark rear windows which gives some privacy to get changed in.
Jean x
Hi Jean
Nice post and brave to show a photo.
Me and hubby aren't that brave although we have chatted on Skype with Davina so he\she's seen us.
Let's hear a bit from other girls and wives \ GF about why theyre here
Em
I tried to add a bit of a survey.
Don't think i like that blue box so will be removing it later.
I have surveys on my blog site I may add the stats from there here
Thanks for letting me raise your post as a new thread look out for it later
Thanks
Davina
Hi Davina, adding it to a new thread is fine by me.
Can I ask a question? Has a blue box been added to the website? It asks “Where are you on the Trans Spectrum”. I have responded to it but it will not go away any ideas?
Jean x
Thanks for that Jean.
Nice to read in fact I think ill leave it here plus add it to a new thread if that's ok specific to you.
Being anti those who don't tolerate crossdressing is ok as to an extent it's something so simple yet for some not so simple.
I'll elaborate more she I put this into a separate thread if you're ok with that.
Davina
Sorry but all my drivel I wrote in the above post went missing don’t know why but I did copy it so here it is, hopefully it will not offend.
I came here after reading the blog and read everything here as well. I am quite a shy quiet person and don’t really like contributing as sometimes my opinion can be quite anti some of the posters who are so intolerant so I prefer to keep quite and not cause conflict.
Yes I did not tell my wife when we met 28 years ago, there was no internet then and it was something we had to keep secret so I purged everything, I was in the army at the time and my only escape was when I went home on Holiday and would dress when my parents were out or away.
I started dressing again after about 15 years into our marriage, I had retired from the army and was an IT Manager and had to travel all over England and Scotland so had time away in hotels where I could dress in private as it was a form of escape from the lack of sexual contact due to my wifes many medical conditions including very low lobido. my wife found knickers that I had started to underdress all the time when I was washing them, I told her they were mine and I was a crossdresser she threw them away and said I had to stop, she did not understand and was unwilling to listen.
There is a lot of talk from women that crossdressers should never marry if they have not told their future wife from the beginnin, that it fine for nowadays with all the information that is readily available, but for us older ones that was not the case when we met and we then believed that are true love would concur our dressing secret and it would never come back. As Davina has said so often women do change and although we still love them they stop dressing as we feel women should and they end up wearing the trousers and we go back to compensating for this by returning to our own dressing.
Forward on 13 years and my wife is now semi supportive and tolerates my dressing in the flat she does not want anyone were we live to know about my other self. My wife has been out with my dressed once to a local support group who were really nice but I did not feel it was my thing as I feel more at home in the real world once a month support group venue. That makes going out more difficult but I do manage as make car has really dark rear windows and being an E class Merc Estate has plenty of room to change in the back.
I am more transgendered than just a crossdresser and would really like to be fully out. I know that when out dressed I do not really pass as I am 6tf 4” tall and weigh 20 stone but don’t really care what others think as it is what I feel and enjoy. Daughter and son including their partners know, wife’s ex and his current wife(no 4) know as well as his daughters from his second marriage and their mother know, one of his daughters owns a beauty salon and has done my nails, lashes and hair, she was the second person to know after my wife and I have been to her salon dressed and all her girls are really supportive too.
I think I have rambled on to much here and not sure if it the right place but hayho, currently watching tv wife is in leggings no makeup and I’m wearing a skirt, holdups, bra, blouse with makeup but no wig (I am growing my hair out so starting to get longer).
It really makes me happy that Esme, Emma and Hanna are so supportive of their husbands dressing but they are a rarity I believe, my wife semi supporting but she would really prefer I was not how I am.
Jean x
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This is me with wig. Having trouble scrolling up the page so will end now and go back to just reading again as I have babbled too much.
Jean x
I came here setting this up to help other tgirls and wives looking for support and to find some support for me and my wife (Esme) myself.
Why do men crossdress? We've not found an answer but have found many and varying reasons why.
I'm here for chat, friendship and hoping to be useful.
Davina
Come on girls I'm interested too
Emma (wife)
I'll beat you to it. Haha
Sorry I've not been here much but count me as a pretty content wife of a Tgirl mainly thanks to help and support on Davinas blog which was my initial find and sanctuary and then this Forum.
I came here worried about my husband being a crossdresser and through the blog and forum came to an acceptance around his dressing which we both find fun.
It even gave me a kick in the backside to make the most of myself as I'd fallen into a boring contented rut as a wife and now I'm far more flamboyant make more of an effort with my makeup and how I dress and even rediscovered high heels.
Not to compete with my crossdresser but it made me feel better about myself and he greatly appreciated this also.
So why was I here? Because I was afraid and needed answers and support
Why am I here now? To give back some support to anyone who needs it here as a wife of a tgirl.
Emma x