By: Katie

Subject: Re: wowzers

Hi Sarah

I'm glad you found our little community.

As Sindy says the vast majority of what you can find on the internet is written by the vocal minority. I hope that Davina's blog and the chat hear represents the silent majority!

I do consider myself a pretty 'vanilla' or 'Davina' type crossdresser. No pretensions about being some vanguard for closeted crossdressers. I think we all try and be honest with each other hear and although it might not suit everyones agenda it is how we feels.

I have found it therapeutic to write down some of my thoughts, test my ideas and answer questions raised.

Telling your wife will be a big one and you will definitely need to make sure the timing is right. I was once told to give any news like this away from the home in a place that isn't special. That way no bad thoughts are connected to somewhere that means something to you and there is no constant reminder.

Make sure you have everything clear in your own mind. Some of the advice given to Alex will also apply. It is important to know yourself before you can share properly.

I didn't really think about my crossdressing until I was discovered. I was lucky my wife didn't throw a wobbly and we are still together although I'm never quite sure how she is coping. I think communication is the buzz word but be prepared for there to be none after the initial disclosure. Your wife will need time to process everything and will ask when she's good and ready.

I'm sure that Sindy and the other wives here would offer support and answer any questions once the day arrive.

I look forward to your contributions.