I thought this should probably be in a new thread to avoid derailing the other one, but Katie mentioned having an 'open mind' as criteria for the partners of crossdressers and I found that quite fascinating. Honestly, that's one of the reasons why my husband fell for me in the first place! Imagine his surprise when he realised it didn't make much difference. Thing is, I have no problem with crossdressers. In fact, I have been surrounded by 'friends on the fringes' most of my life. I myself am a bit of a wild card and rarely conform to what's expected of me. I have worked creative industries most of my adult life and I guess I seemed a sure thing for my husband! Silly guy.
So, I dont think open mindedness equates to acceptance. I have seen some of the most conservative, closed minded women eventually embrace their partners cross dressing because it wasn't entirely unattractive to them. They didn't feel physically turned off when they saw him dressed, they didn't mind the personality changes and in fact found it a pleasant change from Mr Masculine, and they moved forward together. These are women who would NOT tolerate a gay family member etc. They probably voted Trump! Ick!
But, here's me, living a life of creativity and non-conformity and I am sexually repelled by crossdressed men. I am not repelled in general and could very easily hang out with Katie and Davina and wouldn't care less. But dare hit on me and I'd slap you up the head and tell you you're not my type, lol! Sad thing is, if my husband had been honest before we fell for each other, he'd have known this. I actually got hit on quite a few times by crossdressers (my friends and I loved hanging at gay clubs in our twenties - so much fun lol) and I turned all of them down. I remember having one crossdresser tell me I was gorgeous and wanting to make sure I was a genetic girl as the poor thing had spent all night hitting on other crossdressers and drag queens haha. Again, very nice guy, and I'm sure he was very handsome out of female costume, but it just wasn't for me.
So you see, it's not always about having an open mind. There's this whole 'law of attraction' issue that the crossdresser must consider. Katie's theoretical crossdressing son would be better off finding partners in the 'kink' world, or even better, meet women when crossdressed. Then the women like me are instantly removed from the equation. I like to imagine a girl eventually said yes to the nice crossdressing man. Maybe the younger generation of accepting girls will feel able to come out and do that?
So I guess I would warn crossdressers not to assume open mindedness means compatibility, because supporting the rights of crossdressers is not the same as finding them relationship material. That is something completely separate and you might even find the girl of your dreams is a bigoted Trump supporter!
Dressing once per month my average probably 10 times per year = 2.7% of the year so is very occassional lol
And this NIMBY issue really is a big one, you’re tight.
I think. Women can get behind the right to crossdressing in general, which is an open minded trait and I don't think we can dismiss that true but as long as it’s not your husband lol.
I’m trying to think what act would I be ok some other woman doing but not my wife?
How is it women think its ok as long as it doesnt happen to them?
Is that right 8% of marriages usually end over a crossdressing reveal? Where did that come from? Lol
My wife decided initially said ok if you must do it keep me out of it.
Emma is a rare gem here I agree and was brave that she experimented and is now involved
We’re all different and it is such an individual issue and only the couple can figure this part out themselves and the right communication is key from the start
The occasional crossdresser is misrepresented in all this trans specrum as expectation and what people think crossdressing is isnt necessarily what or who we are.
Its easy to talk light hearted about crossdressing its hard to explain it as part of us and an unimportant important part of us…
It's a more than a shame that for a man to do this he essentially must 'out' himself to his friends and everyone else as a crossdresser its a massive step and risk to how people then perceive you as a man gay tranny etc 2.7% of the year crossdressing 07.3% of the year a fully fledged alpha male with that 2.7% escapism.
Younger men may find it easier although at the same time more women are showing masculine traits and wearing flats and trousers … maybe we’ll see a fashion reversal in the next 300 years lol.
Crossdressing comes up in conversation quite often so may someday be 'normalised' however its usually talked about in jest not seriously but I have been tempted but would out myself in doing so to talk about it seriously… would be nice to talk to others seriously about crossdressing which is why chatting to accepting wives and other crossdressers is nice to do.
Inexplicably it can be just a form of relaxation and expression for many men but donning my favourite football shirt for a night of game watching isnt always relaxing especially if they lose I sulk badly.