By: Emma RG
Subject: Dressing myself up
I've now spent a few weeks dressing myself up as opposed to dressing down for work and at home.
Some of the chatter has spurned me on particularly the discussion about how we find a husband then we stop making the effort to look nice for him and for ourselves and decide to wear flats and trousers and jeans and no makeup.
It hit a chord in me and made me think he's crossdressing and not wholey but partly whatever size because I've stopped dressing nice for him and myself.
I know it won't stop his crossdressing as its an ingrained part of him now but every morning I get up, shower have been making more of an effort with makeup and my hair, even wearing it down most days, I've been wearing matching undies and most days a dress, tights and moderate heels.
It has been refreshing for me I feel like a new woman going back to dressing nice every day as opposed to drab or maybe that's the wrong expression.
People in work have noticed and responded well to my new look which is really my old look revamped, he is over the moon that I am making an effort again and we went shopping last week and I bought new heels, a few new dresses, skirts and tops. We got him/her a few items too.
Thanks for the chatter in here between Wife (Sindy), Davina and Katie it's made me think a lot about myself let alone why he crossdresses which I feel is more insignificant than I used to think and worry about.
My fella is defiantly a "Davina type Crossdresser" too
More of this is starting to make a little sense but still don't know really why he crossdresses but the blog has given me some ideas why.
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Dressing myself up
I'm sooo glad you're feeling fab pampering yourself and that you're getting nice comments at work after a few weeks dressing yourself up as opposed to dressing down for work and at home.
I bet your partner is over the moon seeing you all glammed upevery day.
You are right it won't stop his crossdressing as it is ingrained in him but it may slow it down or mean he feels the urge much less having you dressed nice for yourself and for him.
Sounds like you had a nice shopping trip and your “other half” got a few items too lucky thing.
Nice to see the blog having some positive effects on some real women.
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Dressing myself up
Hi Emma
I'm glad that it's working for you. People do notice when you make an effort and positive remarks will only help to build confidence and self-esteem. Who doesn't like to be complimented!
That nice feeling you get is to a degree what we are trying to achieve. Dressing gives us a good feeling about ourselves no matter how badly we do it!
It doesn't matter so much about what you wear it's the effort you put in. My wife looks sexy in skinny jeans and ankle boots, I know that I appreciate women who make the effort to put together a well thought out outfit and I'm sure I'm not unique in that. Don't hide your femininity let it show.
As you say I don't think that how you dress will affect you husbands crossdressing but it will make both of you feel better.
I don't think any of us really know why we crossdress, there are as many theories out there as different types of crossdressers. All I know is that I can't stop and it makes me feel better about myself. It's a small part of who I am as as Davina says it doesn't really do anyone any harm unless you let it.