By: Sindy

Subject: Questions from a Wife

Actually, I can't obviously speak for my husband but what I know of him, he'd say exactly what you've said. He really would. He's just shocking at expressing himself and you're not, so this is extra therapeutic for me! Thanks. :)

And I sort of understand the feeling that women don't dress as men wish. I suspect that's one of the lasting reasons that men dress as they get older, but when you're younger, and women are still putting in the effort (we do dress better when we're single usually, this is true) I sense the dressing is almost in conflict with your life then. You want the women, then go home and BECOME the woman you're attracted to. This might almost make sense if you're shy like you were and too scared to get the girl. My husband was also shy. Perhaps it's a coping mechanism for all that early attraction to femininity that had no outlet? My husband remembers being very young and attracted to teachers and television actresses etc.

Funny though, how something that starts as such a small, simple activity that gives you a nice feeling eventually becomes an identity with a name and often substantial wardrobe. Why does it progress, do you think? Is this just men being men and doing things to the extreme? Competitiveness? Or just plain old boundary pushing?

Where do you see yourself going with this? Is this your end point?

And why don't women take more advantage of the outfits available etc? Some do. Though I'll admit most of us will avoid it until those special occasions. Honestly, I'm sure there's some biological reason behind women not prettying up daily once married with kids. Maybe we're avoiding male attention? I also think, and I know it's true of myself, that we don't get any of the pleasure wearing these things that crossdressers do, and maybe all men if they tried it! There's truly no sensuousness in heels or skirt for me. I feel nothing wearing red lipstick, except maybe like I'm trying to be a Kardashian lol. Lingerie, even pretty lingerie, is very uncomfortable after a while and that restricted feeling around the chest when you're wearing a bra is so insanely annoying, most women arrive home and rip the damn thing off! And don't even get me started on stockings and heels. If boys are more sensitive to sensuality, then perhaps many women are more sensitive to discomfort. And sorry, but many of our clothes of old were UNCOMFORTABLE.

And don't even get me started on stockings and heels lol.

But it's a valid male feeling that we women don't put in the effort much anymore. We don't. I don't think that will change either as I don't know that women ever really wanted to. I mean, I can't speak for other women than those I know. But most dress for comfort. Even an outing is without heels these days. Perhaps women never wanted the pretty things in the first place but we wear it to attract men because we know men like it? Once we've got the man, we don't need it anymore. Hmmm...makes sense.

It also explains why women think you're gay. We dress to attract men. You dress like women when they're trying to attract men, therefore, you're trying to attract men. That's the thought process.

Goes to show how different crossdressers and women are, even though we might look similar.

One more question - do you see yourself still dressing when you're old and grey? I considered this the other day with my husband. Will we be retired and settling into elderly life and he's still dressing up in the mirror? I wondered if that mightn't be beyond annoying. Will I want to still live with this until we're in the grave? I also wondered if crossdressers ever consider the repetitiveness and how others might feel. Do you ever wonder if your wife might not be utterly bored with the whole thing in 10/20/30 years? I think I might be. I have often had to hold my tongue from saying 'you're STILL doing that?'.

Anyway, good to chat again. Or should I say, ramble. :)