This may get us talking...
I Mentioned one of our original members, a wife who was worried her husband was crossdressing so came here seeking advice, found some acceptance and "got into" his crossdressing with nights in dressed etc..
Her next fear on here was maybe he was bisexual, she'd asked him and he said no but she wasn't certain .. I do winder if wives are ever over the sexuality thought about why men crossdress including my own wife..
Eventually said wife agreed to her husband inviting another t girl into their home and she came back into the room at some point and caught them in the act of something sexual.. she was freaked by it but also turned on by it and watched.. She later discovered she was bisexual herself when they met another couple.. wife into her hubbys crossdressing.. She tells the story of it all on here somewhere but recalling this scenario and how I think the wife was seeking assurances i think that what she'd done and accepted was something other wives would do and accept but i don't think any other wives stepped up to this standard of openess about their relationsships and being ok abut a bi crossdressing husband like she was.. If you're still reading the forum come and say hi and hope you don't mind me recalling your post about this..
So recalling this Coleen added the below into another post which is interesting..
Breaking this down
- Are we all a little bisexual? I have posted on here about autogeniphilia as in I fancy myself.
- Sexuality something you're born with? I've chatted to lots of t-girls some are gay, some straight and some bisexual and I've asked a lot why they're bisexual how it happened? and lots blame their wives (lack of sex, lack of sex drive, not kinky enough, stopped making an effort for them and in crossdressing they've met and "sexplored" hence if sexploring with a man or another t girl bisexual).
- I've been told sex is sex does it matter who you're kissing in the dark or who's touching, licking, "sucking" you.. we'll yes i thin it does matter but that's me.
- In this day and age things are way out in the open - This is true as for my 11 year old to start high school and tell me there are two boys who are gay boyfriend and boyfriend in her form and also some of the girls and boys at 11 claim to be bisexual.. 1) How does my 11 year old know about gay and bisexuals? 2) How do these kids know about it? 3) Sexualisation and Disney? Star Wars? MArvel all vying to have some sort of sexual agenda.. and now we hear from the age of 6 our kids will get a wider sexual education on LGBT.. I din't know anything about LGBT growing up. I liked women, then there was gay and that wasn't me and i recon I didnt know or hear bisexual commonly spoken of until i was in my 30s and now we hear it quite often.
I agree you are what you are as long as people don't force the issue and flout it..
But would wives here be happy if
A) Their Crossdressing husband told them he was bisexual as well as a t-girl?
B) That they'd actually acted on this bisexual impulse with another T-Girl?
C) Acted on a bisexual impluse with a man?
D) Conversely would a Crossdressing guy here be happy if his wife was Bisexual?
E) I know most men will say yes they'd be ok their wife being bisexual so why doesn't it work the other way around?
I'll leave the debate for you all to comment on.
It's definately true in LGBT lots of T come with the B also but a lot also come with the S - Straight.
Davina
Given this post has been up 4 days I did think it might have elicited a few more comments but it does seem to be on the move now. Maybe the fair amount of activity on one of the other threads has encouraged comments. I dive in and out of this forum reasonably regularly as I find it hugely informative, kudos to Davina (in the main) for creating new threads, and it's great to get others perspectives on why and how they dress and also the partners comments....great insights and thought provoking. Anyway, back to this one. Have I ever considered I am bisexual. No. Never. Thoughts have never crossed my mind in that way and I dress for my satisfaction and pleasure and not to attract other males (in whatever guise etc). Personally I find the male form fairly unsexy tbh, now don't get me wrong, there are some 'attractive' men that I can appreciate (actors, celebs etc) but that's more a facial thing where I can agree that a bloke is 'good looking'. This doesn't mean I want to shag them or vice versa..... NO THANKS. The female form is far more attractive. Always has been, always will be. If I consider a very nice lace lingerie set on the female form (and yes I know they are designed around the female body) and then consider the same set on the male form...... I know which I prefer 😁. Would I be happy if my partner was bisexual? That's a difficult one as if it was known at the start of the relationship and we had navigated the ensuing 25 years together, as we have, then obviously it wouldn't be an issue. We would no doubt have worked her desires into our relationship. I'm sure it would have been daunting in the beginning but it's all hypothetical really in our case as she's not! It would certainly have been a threat, probably in the same vein that our partners (who know) may see our crossdressing as a threat. I know two couples who are together because the 'straight' partner left their male married partner for their current female partner. I'm not going to lie, I do have a couple of fantasies based around my crossdressing, but don't we all?