Worth reiterating every once in a while .. I still get asked if ive "found the secret to why men crossdress".. I can only really answer for myself. There are similarities across all of us but to varying degrees. Some people have a gender dysphoria. Crossdressing is often the only way they can feel comfortable in their skin. I kinda get this in transexuality but it is also something us crossdressers can feel?.. I can feel comfortable as Davina and this craving to become Davina when i cant i can describe i suppose as 'gender dysphoria' although mild still mind numbingly frustrating, as it can affect my mental state now given crossdressing has become a major part of controlling my mental wellbeing.. reading that may scare my wife it doesn't mean I'm a woman born a man it means i enjoy and need the ocassional escapism. Someone else will disagree and tell me i don't have gender dysphoria as I only play at this being a mere crossdresser. They're right of course as we all do this to varying degrees and seriousness. We can agree i think that we're all attracted to aspects of femininity. Dressing up as a woman somehow helps us explore femininity in the feel of clothing and how we look and feel when dressed. Some enjoy the social aspect, I enjoy this on line chatting or skyping others.. some venture out to Trans events.. something I've not done.. yet.. maybe in the future. Sometimes we just dress up and do nothing else, just chill out or do a bit of hoisework or chat on line.. just enjoy some time not as male us for a bit then when satisfied change back to drab male us. Some do it as a form of sexual gratification and yes that includes me i can feel sexy and turned on and get myself off whilst dressed. I also like for those few hours being "Davina" how it makes me feel and this is the more unexplained..

I can go from stressed, even a little "depressed" male me to chilled out relaxed Davina just by putting on lingerie, hosiery, heels and a dress.. I think the act of transforming male me to "Davina" in itself is part of that stripping away the male clothing and becoming someone else someone or something no one would expect or associate with alpha male me "a crossdresser". We can become more confident and like many i think i look better as a woman than as a man, sexy even and i feel sexy when dressed.

We have a Condition where as men we cant express our feelings freely but when crossdressed we let this guard down which is maybe what our wives and partners see in us if they accept us as crossdressers. It helps us explore our more femine side that we repress as males.. It's just fun and so beneficial to our stupid alpha male mental health. In there somewhere is the answer to why we dress along with women have more choice, better fabrics, better fashion,.. freedom of expression .. Davina