So I worked from home yesterday and text my wife "I'm dressed I've gone for a casual look today" to which she text back "Ok see you lunch time.. Can't wait to see how you look"

Wish I'd taken a photo now but from 'Tinternet this is the sort of look I mean with Blue Jeggins, Brown ankle boots and a long sleeve button up blouse with a collar, toned down makeup (less bright lippy) and my brunette with blonde streaks wig.. Satisfied i looked ok for whatever reason nervous about my wife seeing me as "Casual Davina" ... My reason for trying this I suppose was just exploring "if" I went out en-fem as Davina how would I dress.. so that's the sort of look i went for and was happy with it too..

She came home and her first words were "Wow I like that look you look far more convincing as a woman more in line with dressing your age or as women of your age dress that's the most convincing I've seen you look"

Wow morale booster and a half.

We chatted for a bit about lack of similar blouses with sleeves and buttoned up and again she said that was my new look and I looked really good..

So off back to work she trotted and she text me " Definitely a better look much more passable lol" to which I quipped and planted a seed "Thankyou my new look then, ready to go out then lol"

This must have played on her mind a little and after she read a few of the forum articles in here when we were in bed she started chatting about the forum and the people on the forum and we got round to some more fears which surfaced..

- The main fear remains we dont anyone locally, friends or family to know I'm a crossdresser because peaple assume and assume makes an ass of u and me ..

- I've kinda moved the goal posts bit in mentioning wanting to go out.. Why do i want to go out? a whole new post. It's just something I'd like to experience (I will put a new post on this).

This is still in the balance as I know she doesn't really want to do it but understands i'd like this experience so if I want to do it she will help accommodate it - I likewise don't want her to do what shes not 100% comfortable about hence trying to look passable as would have to fool general public if we do go out.

- I've kinda moved the goalpost from dresses and heels to every day wear which only follows the above (If we do go out I have to look convincing) - Kinda scares her that I'm trying more and more to look more and more convincing as "Davina" but reasons for this for me it's fun, it's a challenge and if we do go out I need to look the part.

- Her complimenting me on how i looked making me more confident as "Davina" she is worried it will mean I want to dress more and if we go out its something I want to do more and more to the point "Davina" will take over and Male me will be scarce.

I'm a man a father a husband and crossdressing for me is and will always be an occasional thing brought on by urges to dress which i don't expect to accelerate and don't want to do more -

Nothing to fear don't want to live as a woman or be a woman just enjoy crossdressing.

The morale boost it gives me makes me happier doesn't make me want to dress more (ie I've not dressed today and could have admittedly after our chat part of the reason i didn't dress today was our chat last night).. Also on TVChix making the top Babes chart another Morale boost and I know she's worried that someone will recognise me there which is slim to no chance

Shes also worried I'd "Try things" if I went out and she found it hard to put this into words me asking what you mean sex ? I can put this all to bed as no i'm not looking for sex as Davina (Other than with my wife if willing) She said I know you're not Gay.. Not sure how i can reassure this any more than i have.

We discussed if we went out in London around Wembley and how we'd act and she brought up shes not a lesbian to which i said i think we'd have to pretend to be two women and friends not lesbians ie unlike we usually do we wouldn't walk holding hands and we'd have to treat eachother and act like we're friends not husband and wife.. She thinks she would find this difficult (I think we'd giggle all night maybe I'm not taking this serious enough lol)

I's good that we can talk about these things (we need to continue this chat) and it's important that as a couple with her accepting my crossdressing that we do talk about these things to assure both are happy with where we are and even better I know she can read this here and comment back without having to talk just type which sometimes is far easier plus we get the point of view of others.

Its an ongoing journey of assurance for me wanting to assure my wife her fears are unfounded .. I still dress as its fun, i like doing it, its relaxing, i do feel sexy, i do get turned on (sometimes), love how it feels, love womens clothing (especially lingerie stockings , tights heels) enjoy the challenge of trying to look convincing and it's just part of me that important unimportant thing i do.